Children and Teens

5 Ways You Can Emotionally Connect With Your Child


PLUS: The hidden benefits.

We live in a fast-paced society. I hear it all the time in my practice: "How can I connect with my child?"

Parents want to connect with their children more than ever these days. Living in the Bay Area can be demanding, and not leave as much time for your family as you would like to have. You are not alone in feeling this way. I see many families that are going through this.

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Children and Teens

6 Ways to Bond with Your Stepchildren

Step-parents have a tough job. Getting on with your new spouse’s children is absolutely essential for a harmonious life together -- but where to start?

Entering into a blended family situation is challenging for everyone, but it can be especially confusing for children. Their idea of “home” has been turned upside down. They may feel lost, angry or abandoned. There’s no question that step-parents have a delicate and difficult role to play.
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Children and Teens

Is Social Media Damaging Your Romantic Relationship?

In today’s world it is almost hard to stay connected if you don’t have social media accounts. Gone are the days when people wrote letters or waited for phone calls (especially on a land line). Face-to-face conversations can even be a rarity. More often than not, communication occurs through apps like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, DM, and old school texting. Adolescents tend to spend even more time than adults on social medial platforms.
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Anxiety and Panic

Our Kids’ Desire to Remain Little, Our Own Efforts Force Them to Grow Up Fast

Do you have a child who is afraid to grow up and wants to stay little for as long as possible? Does he or she complain of others calling him or her a “Big Boy” or “Big Girl”? Does your child talk to you about life moving too fast and not having enough time to play and just be a little kid? I’ve been getting this type of feedback from parents and small children and I want to tell you that these are real concerns and feelings nowadays.
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Brain and Behavior

How to Use Exercise to Overcome Abuse and Bullying and Heal Your Brain

Most therapists, doctors, and mental health professionals recommend exercise to combat depression and anxiety caused by abuse and bullying. However, at no fault of their own, they rarely offer a specific plan. That is because until now it has not been out there. But that has changed recently.

For the first time, we can align exercise routines with mental health issues for recovery. We can align changes to the brain that occur with specific mental health issues with specific movements designed to heal affected brain areas and make people feel better.
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Borderline Personality

Childhood Sexual Abuse: ‘Preparation and Response’ Instead of ‘Prevention’

There is a basic need in our society to change the approach to how we prepare our children for possible sexual assault or abuse. It is wrong for us to teach “sexual assault prevention” to young children, perpetuating this awful suggestion that a small child has ANY capacity whatsoever to prevent his/her own abuse. Instead we need to teach healthy attitudes toward sexuality, and to prepare our children for interactions with “tricky people.”
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Children and Teens

Outrage Over Katelyn Nicole Davis Video Suicide Misses the Point

At the close of 2016, 12-year-old Katelyn Nicole Davis decided that she had had enough of her life in a small, rural town in Georgia. So she did what most teens do nowadays -- she took to social media to share her feelings of angst, depression, and hopelessness. She was, by all accounts, a person doing the best she could in coping with depression and an alleged abuser within her own home.

What she did, however, is becoming an increasingly common and disturbing consequence of our society virtually ignoring people who are troubled by suicide and suicidal thoughts. She decided to livestream her death on Facebook Live.

This is upsetting to people: "How could they allow such videos to be online?!" "Why don't Facebook and YouTube do something about this?!" But the outrage misses the point completely.

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Brain Blogger

The Science of Preventing Dangerous Psychopathy


What makes someone a psychopath? Nature or nurture? And can we stop at risk children from growing up into dangerous adult psychopaths? One of the oldest queries in psychology -- nature versus nurture -- asks if what makes us who we are is predisposed by our DNA, or by life experiences. It is a pretty poignant question when it comes to psychopaths, who are estimated to account for up to 50% of all serious crimes in the US.

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