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Best of Our Blogs: September 22, 2017

I'm still feeling the glow from Sounds True's enlightening online Self-Acceptance summit. In particular, I've been reflecting on bestselling author Anne Lamott's words. She said we save the best China, our favorite cup and ornate glassware for our guests. But do we instill that same level of kindness and care to ourselves?

We may grab an energy bar or frozen drink to erase hunger and thirst, but devote time to lay out the sliced up tomatoes, freshly washed grapes and wedges of cheese for loved ones.

We go out of our way to make others happy, but often neglect ourselves. It's no wonder we end up resentful, sick, tired and angry at the world.

Before you look outward for love and nurturance, start with doing one kind thing for yourself. Be it an understanding thought, a patient response or time to savor a fancy meal just for yourself. Doing any of these will cause a seismic shift, changing the way you treat others, which ultimately affects the world.
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Best of Our Blogs: September 19, 2017

I've been listening to Sound's True's Self-Acceptance Summit, a free 10-day online event with leading experts such as Dr. Parker J. Palmer, Dr. Rick Hanson and Iyanla Vanzant presenting on self-acceptance. It's been life changing. I realized that almost all problems lead back to a feeling of ineptness, not enoughness and low self-worth. It explains why we people please, self-sabotage and are so unhappy.

We are all works-in-progress. But imagine if we were all a little more self-compassionate, kind and supportive? Imagine what we would teach our children. Imagine how much kinder we would be to each other. While we can't change the world, we can do much good by working on our self.

This is a good week to catch up. Our top posts tackle the things your body is trying to tell you, why being kind is more important than being nice and why being single isn't something to be ashamed about.
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Best of Our Blogs: September 15, 2017

It's the answer you weren't hoping for. The truth burns. And you're not sure what to do next.

After your ego has settled, it's important to take a second look. Maybe what you wanted wasn't what was best for you. Could there be a hidden gift in the truth?

Disappointing news isn't what we expect. But the truth can help us shift directions, see things as they truly are and as a result lead us to a more honest place in life.

This week as you go about on your own mission for truth, use our posts on narcissism, relationships and resilience to discover what's been going on in your own life so you can finally heal.
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Best of Our Blogs: September 12, 2017

I thought it was a good time to talk about grief. As I write this, it's the 16th anniversary of September 11. People are reeling from the recent hurricanes. And there is your own personal loss.

People don't often talk about grief. It makes us uncomfortable. It's not an easy discussion to have. But in Insights at the Edge, grief counselor Patrick O'Malley shares that it's presence, not saying the "right," thing that can be most helpful to someone suffering from grief. He also says that sharing your story to people who will listen with an open heart is most healing.

This week our top posts on depression, narcissism and emotional neglect offer new stories that may grow you closer to understanding why you feel the way you do. Self-understanding and awareness are paths to healing. I hope it'll get you through the emotional storm you're currently in.
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Best of Our Blogs: September 8, 2017

Hi there. I'm just returning from a two week trip that I dreamed about for months. Only the actual vacation ended up being a total nightmare.

Traveling with two little kids is not easy. Traveling with two little kids and being sick is the pits. Just when my eldest was starting to recover, my little one and I both got slammed with it as well.

My husband and I were pretty upset, but I realized that I could use this challenging time as an opportunity. Was this not just like all the difficult things in life? Yes it meant we couldn't do all the fun things we planned. But we were here as a family, we were going to pull through and teach our kids that good things come even when things don't go as planned.

I know this is only a trip. You may be grappling with bigger fish. Maybe you're waiting for a diagnosis, your relationship is on the rocks or your working on yourself. Reading our posts this week helped me. I know it'll help you too.
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Best of Our Blogs: August 22, 2017

There's one thing I've been doing lately that has made me feel inspired, motivated and less alone while getting through the ups and downs of life as a stay at home mom. It's returned "me" time and is an important part of my self-care.

If you haven't downloaded a podcast lately, you're missing out on a key ingredient to improving your life. Some shows are pure fun. Most are informative. It harks back to radio shows that keep you entertained purely by someone's voice and great story-telling.

If you're already a podcast listener, have you checked out the Psych Central Show? It's getting great reviews and does a wonderful job of providing information on mental health and mental illness in an informal, casual, and conversational way.

Have a favorite podcast that promotes healthy mental health and destigmatizes mental illness? Share yours here.
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Best of Our Blogs: August 18, 2017

Many of us are living our hell. We feel trapped, imprisoned, and unhappy by circumstances we have no control over.

Maybe we're unemployed or stuck in a relationship, job or state that we can't stand. When I feel this way, I think of Holocaust survivor Viktor E. Frankl and his life changing book, Man's Search for Meaning. 

While we sometimes can't move, we have a choice to change our thinking. We can find ways even in an intolerable state to find meaning, power and even joy.

This week, we learn that an inspiring quote, changing our thoughts and understanding our partners can make a difference in how free we feel in our lives.
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Best of Our Blogs: August 15, 2017

Recently, I decided to take charge of my health. In practical terms it looked like firing my current doctor, saying, "No" to events and going to sleep by 10:30.

I've done this for a few weeks now and it's been surprisingly difficult. I realized why many of us don't change even when we know it's best for us.

Change is uncomfortable.

Disappointing others, giving up activities and sacrificing things we're used to are not easy. It's awkward. It's different. It can feel scary.

If we stay the course, what feels new will become routine. It's how we build self-trust. Committing to self-care requires self-love, courage and the belief that everything will work out and everyone who matters will understand.

If you're finding it difficult to take care of yourself, you may be a victim of gas lighting, anxiety and depression, a narcissist or someone who is histrionic. Read our posts this week to find out.
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Best of Our Blogs: August 11, 2017

Your belief that everything is going to be all right. Her smile. His sense of ease. Your friendship.

What has illness done to you and your relationships?

What have you gained in return?

Meaning. Presence. Connection. Compassion.

This week, read the fascinating ways narcissism, stress, negative thinking and a traumatic childhood affect who we are today. Then, ask yourself: What have you gained from these unlikely gifts?
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Best of Our Blogs: August 8, 2017

Can you believe we're nearly done with summer. Many kids have already or gearing up for the new school year. With summer about to be a memory, I would love to know your favorite summertime reads.

While the books are taking over my nightstand, I'm enjoying one surprising pick this season.

On Edge: A Journey Through Anxiety is a new memoir that depicts Andrea Peterson's, a Wall Street Journal contributing writer and Rosalynn Carter Fellowship for Mental Health Journalism award recipient, true story of anxiety.

I find it fascinating for its info and validating for anyone who has suffered through anxiety.

How about you? Besides our posts on healthy relationships with others and yourself, what books are making your top summer reading list?
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Best of Our Blogs: August 1, 2017

I've been anxious and I've been depression. While being in the throes of either feels like hell, there is something worse than that.

It's the worry, fear and anxiety about the anxiety and depression. It's the suffering thrown upon the struggles that emulsifies it, and makes every moment feel intolerable.

I've learned to find pockets of joy, hope and profound gratitude even in painful moments. Doing so doesn't ignore, abandon or avoid the hard stuff. On the contrary, it helps us to deal with it better.

Whether its difficulty at work or in a relationship, our posts will give you ideas on how to transform your negative emotional state to a more positive one.
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