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Best of Our Blogs: October 20, 2017

Did you ever call someone on their stuff and all you got back was more stuff? Back and forth the pointing goes. Nothing is solved. No one feels good about it.

That's like an emotional hot potato. We've seen it in politics. We see it in our own homes.

What's missing is good old-fashioned ownership, responsibility and accountability.

Just because someone makes a mistake, it doesn't mean they are bad people or should be shamed. But in order to grow we need to get real with what's really going on. We need the courage to fess up so we can make radical changes for the betterment of everyone involved.

Understanding is a form of love. If you care more about your relationship than being right, you'll work to quiet your ego, heal your old wounds and work together to find common ground.

In our top posts this week, you'll discover that an inability to take ownership and admit wrongdoing may be signs of passive-aggressiveness, narcissism or perfectionism.
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Best of Our Blogs: October 17, 2017

Did you ever walk into a room and notice you're drawn to and repelled by certain people?

People are mirrors and we can use this knowledge to understand ourselves.

Maybe that new co-worker exhibits qualities you wish you had or an acquaintance is expressing qualities you dislike in yourself.

Maybe you need to work on being more open, genuine and vulnerable. Maybe you need to learn to accept your critical nature or relentless competitiveness.

It's difficult to look within. It's much easier to judge others. But if you're ready to make positive changes in your life, you need to look deeper than your initial assessment.

You can start by reading up on your current relationships. Are you neglecting or even ruining it? How are you doing with confronting a narcissist or being calm in the midst of frustration with your child? When we can courageously search within, we're more able to connect with the relationships, people and opportunities we're most looking for.
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Best of Our Blogs: October 13, 2017

Do you feel overwhelmed by the state of the world today?

Do you believe that since people in powerful positions don't understand mental illness or care about people who are ill, why should you bother?

I feel that too.

But I see people every day doing great things. As a freelance writer, I interview inspiring people all the time. Recently, I talked to a guy who is making real changes to improve the health of his community.

That's what we need now. More positive stories. Taking action. Taking care of ourselves. There are always things we can do. Don't lose hope!

Need help getting through the rest of the week? I love these positive posts on fun ways to return to the art of play, permission to mess up as a parent, and signs you're stronger than you think.
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Best of Our Blogs: October 10, 2017

We think we need big change to cause significant improvement in our emotional well-being and mental health. Sometimes it's the small things, the things we don't even think about that can cause dramatic shifts in our lives.

It's the ordinary things, the day to day things that we can change. While it's not be as sexy as a getaway, spa visit or workshop, returning to the basics can be life changing.

This week, consider how much sleep you're getting. Is your diet up to par? And when is the last time you went for a walk, and read something just for the fun of it? Why not try one thing and see how you feel this week?
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Best of Our Blogs: October 6, 2017

As someone who is sensitive, I avoid the news as much as possible. I'm also careful about what I consume (e.g. food, TV, movies). Things that doesn't affect others can have a negative impact on the way I live my life.

This is why all the recent events have been particularly hard for me. Things like being grateful, researching ways to help, and sending loving thoughts to those suffering prevented me from feelings of hopelessness and despair.

If you need extra support, this is a great article that lists resources written by our staff.

If the help you need is with a narcissist this week, all of our top posts have something for you.
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Best of Our Blogs: October 3, 2017

There was a time when we thought we could turn our backs on people who were "weird," or "different." Until the day came when we woke up to the truth. Everything that affects him or her also affects us.

We can turn off the television. We can close the newspaper. But we can't turn down the people in our lives. Every day someone is affected by mental illness. Maybe that person is you.

There's no "us," and "them." There's all of us. The sooner we wake up to our own insecurities, feelings of emptiness and helplessness, the sooner we will be able to accept others who are suffering as well.

We can't solve the problems of the world alone. We all need to be in it together.
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Best of Our Blogs: September 29, 2017

There are devastating things happening in the world today.

Can we find paths to peace when everything feels like it's falling apart?

When I was a kid, I thought money was evil. It did crazy things to people-made them jealous, angry and do unethical things. All I wanted was to save the world. As an adult, I realized I can't save anyone unless I first take care of myself.

The same goes for the state of the world today. In order to have the energy, compassion and passion to extend outwards, we need to make sure we're seeking support and restoration for ourselves.

This week, I hope you find time to read our articles. It'll provide help if you're being manipulated or alienated by others. And the next time you feel stuck or anxious, you might want to try doodling. One of our posts explains the benefits below.
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Best of Our Blogs: September 26, 2017

There are a few new things I've been doing that has had a tremendous impact on my emotional health.

Gratitude. 

You've probably heard it a million times. I have to. But I've only recently got it. That's because I tried a different approach.

I looked at my life through the lens of an outsider. From this perspective, I saw all the things I take for granted (my husband, kids and home) as blessings. This simple act of zooming in on what's right with the world has had a profound impact on my state of mind.

As you read our top posts, you might recognize yourself. It's an important practice in appreciating what you've been through, which leads to accepting yourself. If you need a little help finding the good in your situation, keep reading. Our last post shows how creativity can support you in the process.
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Best of Our Blogs: September 22, 2017

I'm still feeling the glow from Sounds True's enlightening online Self-Acceptance summit. In particular, I've been reflecting on bestselling author Anne Lamott's words. She said we save the best China, our favorite cup and ornate glassware for our guests. But do we instill that same level of kindness and care to ourselves?

We may grab an energy bar or frozen drink to erase hunger and thirst, but devote time to lay out the sliced up tomatoes, freshly washed grapes and wedges of cheese for loved ones.

We go out of our way to make others happy, but often neglect ourselves. It's no wonder we end up resentful, sick, tired and angry at the world.

Before you look outward for love and nurturance, start with doing one kind thing for yourself. Be it an understanding thought, a patient response or time to savor a fancy meal just for yourself. Doing any of these will cause a seismic shift, changing the way you treat others, which ultimately affects the world.
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Best of Our Blogs: September 19, 2017

I've been listening to Sound's True's Self-Acceptance Summit, a free 10-day online event with leading experts such as Dr. Parker J. Palmer, Dr. Rick Hanson and Iyanla Vanzant presenting on self-acceptance. It's been life changing. I realized that almost all problems lead back to a feeling of ineptness, not enoughness and low self-worth. It explains why we people please, self-sabotage and are so unhappy.

We are all works-in-progress. But imagine if we were all a little more self-compassionate, kind and supportive? Imagine what we would teach our children. Imagine how much kinder we would be to each other. While we can't change the world, we can do much good by working on our self.

This is a good week to catch up. Our top posts tackle the things your body is trying to tell you, why being kind is more important than being nice and why being single isn't something to be ashamed about.
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Best of Our Blogs: September 15, 2017

It's the answer you weren't hoping for. The truth burns. And you're not sure what to do next.

After your ego has settled, it's important to take a second look. Maybe what you wanted wasn't what was best for you. Could there be a hidden gift in the truth?

Disappointing news isn't what we expect. But the truth can help us shift directions, see things as they truly are and as a result lead us to a more honest place in life.

This week as you go about on your own mission for truth, use our posts on narcissism, relationships and resilience to discover what's been going on in your own life so you can finally heal.
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Best of Our Blogs: September 12, 2017

I thought it was a good time to talk about grief. As I write this, it's the 16th anniversary of September 11. People are reeling from the recent hurricanes. And there is your own personal loss.

People don't often talk about grief. It makes us uncomfortable. It's not an easy discussion to have. But in Insights at the Edge, grief counselor Patrick O'Malley shares that it's presence, not saying the "right," thing that can be most helpful to someone suffering from grief. He also says that sharing your story to people who will listen with an open heart is most healing.

This week our top posts on depression, narcissism and emotional neglect offer new stories that may grow you closer to understanding why you feel the way you do. Self-understanding and awareness are paths to healing. I hope it'll get you through the emotional storm you're currently in.
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