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Best of Our Blogs: August 22, 2017

There's one thing I've been doing lately that has made me feel inspired, motivated and less alone while getting through the ups and downs of life as a stay at home mom. It's returned "me" time and is an important part of my self-care.

If you haven't downloaded a podcast lately, you're missing out on a key ingredient to improving your life. Some shows are pure fun. Most are informative. It harks back to radio shows that keep you entertained purely by someone's voice and great story-telling.

If you're already a podcast listener, have you checked out the Psych Central Show? It's getting great reviews and does a wonderful job of providing information on mental health and mental illness in an informal, casual, and conversational way.

Have a favorite podcast that promotes healthy mental health and destigmatizes mental illness? Share yours here.
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Best of Our Blogs: August 18, 2017

Many of us are living our hell. We feel trapped, imprisoned, and unhappy by circumstances we have no control over.

Maybe we're unemployed or stuck in a relationship, job or state that we can't stand. When I feel this way, I think of Holocaust survivor Viktor E. Frankl and his life changing book, Man's Search for Meaning. 

While we sometimes can't move, we have a choice to change our thinking. We can find ways even in an intolerable state to find meaning, power and even joy.

This week, we learn that an inspiring quote, changing our thoughts and understanding our partners can make a difference in how free we feel in our lives.
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Best of Our Blogs: August 15, 2017

Recently, I decided to take charge of my health. In practical terms it looked like firing my current doctor, saying, "No" to events and going to sleep by 10:30.

I've done this for a few weeks now and it's been surprisingly difficult. I realized why many of us don't change even when we know it's best for us.

Change is uncomfortable.

Disappointing others, giving up activities and sacrificing things we're used to are not easy. It's awkward. It's different. It can feel scary.

If we stay the course, what feels new will become routine. It's how we build self-trust. Committing to self-care requires self-love, courage and the belief that everything will work out and everyone who matters will understand.

If you're finding it difficult to take care of yourself, you may be a victim of gas lighting, anxiety and depression, a narcissist or someone who is histrionic. Read our posts this week to find out.
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Best of Our Blogs: August 11, 2017

Your belief that everything is going to be all right. Her smile. His sense of ease. Your friendship.

What has illness done to you and your relationships?

What have you gained in return?

Meaning. Presence. Connection. Compassion.

This week, read the fascinating ways narcissism, stress, negative thinking and a traumatic childhood affect who we are today. Then, ask yourself: What have you gained from these unlikely gifts?
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Best of Our Blogs: August 8, 2017

Can you believe we're nearly done with summer. Many kids have already or gearing up for the new school year. With summer about to be a memory, I would love to know your favorite summertime reads.

While the books are taking over my nightstand, I'm enjoying one surprising pick this season.

On Edge: A Journey Through Anxiety is a new memoir that depicts Andrea Peterson's, a Wall Street Journal contributing writer and Rosalynn Carter Fellowship for Mental Health Journalism award recipient, true story of anxiety.

I find it fascinating for its info and validating for anyone who has suffered through anxiety.

How about you? Besides our posts on healthy relationships with others and yourself, what books are making your top summer reading list?
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Best of Our Blogs: August 1, 2017

I've been anxious and I've been depression. While being in the throes of either feels like hell, there is something worse than that.

It's the worry, fear and anxiety about the anxiety and depression. It's the suffering thrown upon the struggles that emulsifies it, and makes every moment feel intolerable.

I've learned to find pockets of joy, hope and profound gratitude even in painful moments. Doing so doesn't ignore, abandon or avoid the hard stuff. On the contrary, it helps us to deal with it better.

Whether its difficulty at work or in a relationship, our posts will give you ideas on how to transform your negative emotional state to a more positive one.
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Best of Our Blogs: July 28, 2017

There will come a time when your parents, friends, and even your partner will disappoint you.

We can't stop people from saying the "wrong" thing to us.

We can't force them to always being there for us.

We can't protect our heart so we don't feel the pain of hurt and rejection.

There is another way.

When a narcissist hurts you or when you're self-critical, choose to be there for yourself. You may give yourself a pat on the shoulder. You may shower yourself with kind and compassionate words. You may be good to yourself by feeding your body healthy and nourishing foods.

While we cannot control other people and their actions, we can do a lot of good by supporting ourselves.
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Best of Our Blogs: July 25, 2017

I attended a class called Mindful Stress Mastery and it was completely full. Every single person in there was struggling with stress and anxiety. There were men, women, young and the old. There were people who came here alone, and with their partners. Every one was grappling with their emotional, physical and financial health.

Beyond what the class taught me, I was moved and healed by the knowledge that we're all doing the best we can.

Sometimes when life gets hard, it feels like we're out their on a limb all alone. This was a powerful testament we're all more alike than different. It gave me comfort as I hope it will give to you. You are not alone in your suffering.

As you'll read this week, although our individual experiences are unique, we share a common desire for health, well-being and happiness.
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Best of Our Blogs: July 21, 2017

You would be wrong if you believed your co-worker or neighbor who seems problem-free got life figured out more than you.

You suffer from anxiety or keep falling for a narcissist. You're the last person anyone would qualify as healthy right?

Surprisingly, it's the ones who are sensitive, empathetic and self-aware that exhibit signs of what others deem mental illness.

The next time you write yourself or someone else writes you off as a crazy person, remember you're doing the work. You're feeling your feelings. You're trying to work on your perfectionism, assertiveness and dysfunctional family. That person who looks healthy may be in denial. To shift focus away from their judging you, remember how far you've come and what you're doing to work on yourself.
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Best of Our Blogs: July 14, 2017

Every moment a hundred or so thoughts flood your mind. Many go unnoticed and unchecked. By the end of the day you're anxious, depressed or in a foul mood, but don't know why.

We pay more attention to what we eat than the thoughts we ingest daily. But what we think can play as important a role as our diet.

On the road to a healthy mind, pause to be witness to what you're thinking. Watch and listen without judgment. Then, choose a different path.

When we pay attention to what's going on in our mind, we may discover the root (e.g. controlling parents? manipulative boss?) of our negative thoughts.
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