Anger

The Angry Itch

Anger can be considered one of the most toxic emotions a person can experience.  It can also be one of the most motivating.  In order to understand how to best manage anger for one’s own life, it helps to understand anger from several different angles.

Michael Potegal and Raymond W. Novaco wrote an essay called A Brief History of Anger.  Some of their key points around anger involved insanity, sin, and manhood.   All of these reasons for anger still exist to some extent in the ways we live even now.
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Feeling Negative? Something Needs to Change

“Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they’re big, flashing signs that something needs to change.” – Gretchen Rubin

Look in the mirror. See that grumpy face staring back at you? What you’re feeling inside is coming to the surface to let you know that all is not where it needs to be right now. Those tears you can’t stop shedding? They’re tangible evidence of a powerfully negative emotion that you must deal with to get on with life.

Other negative emotions that play out in interactions with others and because of inaction or unwillingness to confront a situation that needs to change include
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Fatherhood: Optional

“We have a personality clash,” my father would flippantly remark before storming off. This was his throwaway line.

I stood there dumbfounded. A sensitive teenager, the words wounded. There was a cold dismissiveness in his voice.

“What have I ever done to you?” I wondered.

The answer: Nothing. But that doesn’t stop the lingering hurt. In 1997, 2007, and, yes, 2017.
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The Boys Club

Over the past several years sexual assault has become an increasingly popular subject. Whether this is because there is a rise in sexual assault or because it is simply more acceptable to openly discuss the matter, is unclear. Whatever the case, sexual abuse/assault/violence and harassment has exploded into common conversation.
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3 Ways to Work Through the Anger Stage of Grief


(And how to get over it.)

Saying goodbye to him was the hardest thing I ever tried to do. I couldn't do it.

People told me to reach out to God but I was too angry. People told me to call them but what did they know? I was too resentful. I’d see old men and wonder why did they get to live and he had to die? I was too pissed.

When Kubler-Ross did her seminal work on grief, she was sure to include a stage on anger.

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