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Struggling to Get Something Done? Maybe You Need an Accountability Buddy

Have I mentioned that I’ve created a personality framework called the “Four Tendencies?” Oh right, I think I have. Well, if you don’t know about this framework, which divides all of humanity into four categories -- Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel -- you can read an explanation and to take the quiz to find out your Tendency here.

Of the Four Tendencies, “Obliger” is the largest Tendency, the one that the most people belong to, for both men and women. And...
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5 Common Misconceptions About Grief

Like many painful emotions, we don’t talk much about grief.
Grief is the emotional experience that results from any type of loss. Being the experience-that-must-not-be-named (yes, I just made a Harry Potter reference) gives rise to lot of confusion and misconceptions about what grief actually is, so I’d like to take the chance to debunk some of these erroneous ideas.
1. “It’s the same as depression.”
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Grief and Loss

What to Do When You Feel Lost After Divorce

Divorce is tough for many reasons. Not only are we dealing with the emotions and logistics and finances, but after the dust has settled, we may feel like our life's plans have changed direction. The life you planned and your vision of the future may disappear, leaving you with a feeling of not knowing what to do or where to go from here.

But when you feel like this, don’t panic! There is merely one thing you must remember:
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The Ethics of Armchair Diagnosis

When you resort to name calling, you’ve lost the argument. When you resort to diagnosing, they’ve lost credibility. Is it any wonder why non-mental health professionals are diagnosing people out of anger?  

Some people diagnose because of a disagreement. How many times have we heard a friend relay stories about his "bipolar" girlfriend after they have ended the relationship? Or what about a frustrated mother who is fed up with her son’s “ADD” when he refuses to do homework?

When someone does the opposite of what we want them to, it is tempting to label the behavior as a scientific defect. When the problem person has been labeled with a disorder, the blame is completely within their body. We, are off the hook.
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Inspiration & Hope

How to Tap into Your Capabilities

“You are capable of so much more than we usually dare to imagine.” – Sharon Salzberg
How many times do you think about doing something and then immediately discard the idea because you think you’re not capable? It’s amazing how often people sell themselves short.

Just because you haven’t done something doesn’t mean you don’t have the ability or capability to do an excellent job. Perhaps some of this reluctance is rooted in fear -- principally, the fear of failure. We don’t want to stumble and not complete the job or task. We want to be successful. Anything less is not acceptable.

How do you tap into your
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Anxiety and Panic

How to Calm Our Anxious Selves

When I was over at a friend’s house recently, I was fascinated watching their six month old kitten playing with a toy mouse. This kitten had never been outdoors, had never been taught to hunt, and had never been exposed to a mouse. Yet she was a natural hunter: she knew instinctively how to sneak up on this stuffed mouse, how to stalk it, snatch it, and grab it in her mouth. This behavior was hard-wired into her genes.
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Best of Our Blogs: May 30, 2017

One of the most difficult things about illness, either physical or mental, is how much of an impact it can have on one's life.

On rough days, it's easy to fantasize about life free without the burdens that come with it. How nice it would be to go about your day with a sense of ease.

I know it's hard to be you sometimes. It's difficult to maneuver the world when your anxiety or disease prevents you from being your best self.

It may seem like what you're struggling with is the hardest thing in the world. You may feel alone in dealing with your anger, your messy household, your narcissistic parent, and even abuse. But there is hope in all of our stories. Just when you're worn down, and fed up, you find solace, peace and healing around the corner.
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Empowering vs. Enabling

What amount of love does it take to say "No," to set boundaries and allow for people to learn from the natural consequences of their actions?

Enough to fill an Olympic stadium. Hard to sit back and watch someone you love self-destruct before your eyes; especially if it is your child, regardless of age.
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Family-Based Treatment: 7 Common Surprises Parents Often Experience

For parents of an adolescent with an eating disorder, determining the best treatment approach to meet the needs of both your child and yourself can be extremely difficult. It has to be effective. It has to include the family. Simply, it has to work.

For a growing number of families, the approach that fits all the above criteria is Family-Based Treatment (FBT), a philosophy giving families an active, transparent and supporting role not only at home, but inside clinical settings. Most families I work with discover
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