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Brain and Behavior

Why We Hide

The wise Seth Godin recently posted a blog titled "Hiding." He included these words: "We hide by avoiding things that will change us ... We hide by asking for reassurance. We hide by letting someone else speak up and lead ... We live in fear of feelings."

Shame is the hiding emotion. Here are some of my thoughts on the origin of hiding:

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Happiness

Here’s Your 5-Step Guide to Taking Life Chances


You can HANDLE this!

The very thought of a life-changing decision brings chills to most of us, yet from the moment we are born, we keep taking these big steps toward change. Some of us feel a ton of stress and think through everything, and others jump blindly into the unknown.

Sometimes we make risky decisions, not because we believe we can do it, but because someone else is so confident in us so much that it makes us believe too. Other times we go for it because we just can’t bare the situation we’re in anymore and we have to believe that there’s something better on the other side.
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Anxiety and Panic

4 Quick Steps to the Calm You Deserve

I am a highly sensitive person (HSP) who happens to deal with a lot of anxiety. This anxiety can range from full force to slightly triggered. When so many things affect me as an HSP, at times it feels like I have no power or control. I feel helpless. I feel like my well-being is in the hands of anyone and everyone but me.

When I am around other people, how I feel is in their hands. When I enter certain environments, it is controlled by that. Even when I am alone and my nervous system is firing off for no reason, my well-being is in the hands of my racing mind telling me I am not safe.

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College

How to Get Over Your Fear of Talking about Money (And Get the Pay Raise You Deserve)


Talking about money can be difficult, even scary. It’s a topic that makes many people feel uncomfortable. Whether you’re negotiating higher pay in response to a new job offer or vying for a promotion in your current role, discussing salary is downright stressful.

You’re afraid of getting turned down, making things awkward, or even offending your manager. So, you make excuses as a way to sidestep the conversation. You tone down your requests -- or worse, you don’t...
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General

5 Practices to Achieve Work-Life Balance

We live in a time-poor era where everything has to be done yesterday and our to-do list is ever-growing. Achieving work-life balance is an everyday challenge for many of us and it can sometimes feel more like a dream than a reality that can be realized. In the pursuit of a less frenetic life, simply the ability to get out of the office early can be of tremendous help to achieve a minimum level of work-life balance.

After all, no amount of yoga, meditation, massages or escapes to paradisal destinations would keep us feeling rejuvenated for long if we barely get enough hours in a day to relax or sleep. Try the five tips below to help you out:

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Antidepressant

Don’t Mess with Moms Who’ve Suffered Postpartum Depression #meditateonthis

When you claim there's some sort of global conspiracy against a minority population, you probably should have some, you know, actual data to back up your claims.

Unless, of course, you're New York Times best-selling author Marianne Williamson. Then you can just apparently make a claim without any need for science or data, all the while expressing what to me seems like a prejudiced view against people with a mental illness. Namely, moms with postpartum depression.

How did those angry postpartum moms react on Twitter? With one voice.

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Caregivers

The Embodiment of Motherhood

As my tired eyes squint from the harshness of a brightly lit grocery store, my gaze follows all different types of mothers: young and old, frazzled and worn, rested and carefully put together. These are your average, run-of-the-mill mothers, standing impatiently at the grocery store with newborns in baby carriers and a toddler navigating an iPad with impish delight.

As my gaze slides to the scuffed tile and lands upon my feet, I have an epiphany. It is a realization that I am not only one of these mothers, I am the embodiment of all these mothers. I never thought I would even partake in motherhood, let alone have it embody my entire life.

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General

5 Signs that You’ve Got Relationship Burnout

The term “burnout” means experiencing exhaustion, dwindling motivation, and a loss of interest in something you were once fully engaged in. While we usually apply this term to working environments, burnout can easily happen to people in their love lives, and often for the same reasons it happens in their work lives.

At work, burnout usually occurs when you start to feel you’re working too hard for the results that are being produced. It’s not just the long hours or the slow progress, it’s the combination of both that produces the loss of enjoyment.

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Celebrities

Glenn Close Opens Up About Her Depression

When Jessie and Glenn Close founded their mental illness nonprofit, Bring Change 2 Mind in 2010, all of the focus was on Jessie's battle with bipolar disorder. Glenn was there to lend her name and support to the effort, but I'm not sure anyone imagined she too suffered. Silently.

But, according to a new article in Mashable earlier this week, Glenn was first diagnosed with depression in 2008. Which makes her efforts to help launch Bring Change 2 Mind all the more laudable.

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Best of Our Blogs

Best of Our Blogs: January 29, 2016

Life isn't a game where whoever makes it easy wins. Yet, we strive for celebrity six-packs right after giving birth, to be at the top of our careers, and manage a healthy successful family, all without batting an eye.

Anything less would be, well, shameful.

The dirty secret is no one does things well, all the time. We're vulnerable to illness. We're susceptible to getting hurt. We mess up. We respond the wrong way. We don't juggle everything without a few balls falling. In fact, the more we look like we're doing it perfectly, the greater the likelihood that we're about to drop them all.

Instead of keeping up the charade, be honest about your situation. You make mistakes like everyone else. Once you can copt to that, you'll be able to start saying, "No," to people and opportunities that don't serve you, and learn how to better manage your stress. The funny thing is once we're able to admit we don't always know the best things to say and do, we're free to start living and doing better for ourselves and those we love.
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Habits

5 Simple Tricks to Bring Major Happiness to Your Life


Want to change your life? Start here.

Change can be a great thing. A new routine or a new perspective can really revitalize your life and sense of well-being.

But what about the times when change presents a challenge? How can you build up your energy and joy when changes in your life leave you feeling drained?

The truth is that you can easily bolster your happiness in your everyday life. Better yet, when you’re connected to your sense of joy, you’re better equipped to work with change when it comes your way.
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