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Admit it. You still reveal your vulnerabilities to your insensitive father. You share your celebrations with your critical mother. You divulge your deepest secrets to your untrusting friend. A part of you still looks for validation, acceptance and recognition. But instead of reaching out to people who are capable, compassionate and accepting, you continue to turn to those that disappoint you. You’re not a masochist so why do you keep sabotaging your happiness?

I think there’s still that inner child within us that hopes to make things right. We have a deep longing to receive loving responses from those we’re closest to. But since they’re not likely to change, we keep hitting our head against the wall feeling small, unappreciated and hurt over and over again.

What do we do instead?

As you’ll read this week, it could mean learning to accept yourself, reconnecting with old friends, building up your strengths, and finally letting go of the past. When we decide we deserve better, that alone can be the impetus for change. From turning to more reliable sources to turning within for acceptance and self-compassion, the good news is through awareness we can create our own happy endings.

Fixing Problems: Are You Excessively Responsible?
(Anger Management) – We sometimes trap ourselves in the present by letting our past control us. In this post, we learn how self-acceptance, self-respect and trust are more powerful than control.

Want to Be Mentally Strong? Harness These Five Strengths
(Leveraging Adversity) – Mental strength can pull you through the most difficult challenges in your life. If you’re gearing up for a particularly trying task, you’ll want to build up these strengths.

Smart Phones, Stupid Choices and Alone Together
(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – Do you find yourself on your phone when you’re alone and in the company of others? This post alerts us to an issue we don’t talk about enough-our addictive relationship with our phones and how it’s impacting our personal lives.

How Psychoanalysis Understands Depression
(Practical Psychoanalysis) – Depression is a common mental health condition with several symptoms. Here is one way of viewing depression in the perspective of psychoanalysis.

Why It’s Good to Reconnect With Old Friends
(Of Two Minds) – True friendships are like medicine for the soul. As this blogger shares, real relationships not just Facebook friends can get you through a rough patch.