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Sharing and Shaming: What Has Social Media Done for You Lately?

We all use social media, whether it’s Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or any number of blogging sites. But rarely do we think about how social media leaves us exposed in a way that could hurt us irreparably.

In Jon Ronson’s So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed he studied several people who in recent years have been widely criticized via social media -- some of them for sharing things online they now regret. For instance, Justine Sacco lost her job after she tweeted, “Going to Africa. Hope I don’t get AIDS. Just kidding. I’m white!” Or Lindsey Stone, who also lost her job after she shared a photo of herself on Facebook which showed her flipping off a sign outside the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier. Before they knew it, they were trending online and a social media hammer had come down on them. Something as simple as posting online made them infamous.

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Bullying

Are You a Bullied Parent?

Have you ever seen a child bully or boss around his parents? A child who talks down to them, disrespects or even mocks them? Embarrassing, isn't it?

A generation or two ago, it would have been unthinkable for children to bully their parents. Today, nearly everyone knows a parent who is bullied by his or her child. Pay a visit to your local playground or stroll through a shopping mall. You're bound to see the bullied parent dynamic in action.
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Best of Our Blogs

Best of Our Blogs: July 31, 2015

People who gossip, criticize and judge others are only reflecting their own insecurities and self-criticism. I know that when I'm a harsh judge to others it's because I'm struggling with accepting myself.

The hardest thing to overcome in life isn't something someone said to you or the insensitive thing they did, it's the past action you haven't been able to forgive yourself for. Every judgment you place upon others is a way, albeit an unhelpful one, to make you feel better about yourself.

But how do you cope with the wretched feeling you feel when you've compromised your health, safety, success or relationship out of fear?

It's an ongoing work in progress that involves consistent self-compassion, acceptance and a fierce commitment to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for being less than perfect. Forgive yourself for sacrificing your long-term happiness for a little short-term comfort. Forgive yourself for not knowing any better. In doing so, you'll move on from the life you were living yesterday to a richer life filled with love, acceptance, and freedom. This week's posts on self-acceptance and unconditional love will help get you there.
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Addiction

How Connection Saves Us from Addiction

Humans suffer most when we lack connection. Take, for example, Tom Hanks with his volleyball, Wilson, in the movie "Cast Away." I was distraught when he lost Wilson and cried as though my personal friend had drowned at sea.

We will force connection with inanimate objects, if we must, because we’re hardwired to crave it, to need it.

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Anxiety and Panic

Are You Giving Your Anxiety an Essence?

Does it feel like your anxiety is taking over your life? Would you do anything to get rid of your anxiety? Does it feel like it is some part of you that doesn’t belong?

While it is perfectly natural to want to answer yes to one or all of these questions, be careful. Their wording actually is part of the problem with attempts to cope with anxiety.

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Dreams

How to Eliminate Recurring Nightmares

All of us have nightmares. Maybe in your nightmare you’re being chased by some terrifying but unknown entity. Maybe you’re surrounded by bloodthirsty vampires or hordes of zombies. Maybe you’re trapped in a room with snakes or spiders or any other animal you fear. Maybe you or a loved one is involved in a car wreck or a violent assault.

Maybe you keep having this nightmare over and over. And it’s so real, so vivid, so frightening that the last thing you want to do is fall back asleep.

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Anxiety and Panic

The Anxious Cycle: How Children Inherit Our Anxiety

As a victim of childhood trauma, I have a propensity toward anxiety. It is my reaction of choice when life gets difficult. Having lived with anxiety most of my life, I never knew there was another way to live. I assumed it was normal. I assumed everybody lived this way.

I became so used to the way anxiety made me feel, I could function through almost any symptoms. Sometimes, the panic attacks would paralyze me momentarily, but I could work through the quick breathing and the heart racing. At the end of the day, I would be exhausted, as though I had run a marathon, but I could make it work.
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ADHD and ADD

Spreading Misinformation About ADHD

John Rosemond, MS is a nationally-syndicated columnist and parenting expert who's made a name for himself by promoting a lot of old-fashioned parenting skills. You know, like spanking. I suppose there's nothing wrong with ignoring research data and science that's been published in the past few decades (if that's your thing).

But I was a little taken aback by Rosemond's recent answer to a parent's concern that her child may have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).

Rosemond starts his reply off with this outrageous claim: "First and foremost, there is no good science behind the diagnosis of ADHD."

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Depression

Pets as Therapy

Growing up, I’d fantasize about what it would be like to have a dog. Besides the cuteness and fluffiness and opportunity to have an extra playpal, I rationalized that I could "talk" to this canine about my problems. And it would dutifully listen and lick my hand, and snuggle up against me whenever I felt down.

I never got the dog (and no parents, this isn’t a guilt-trip article, do not fret), but extensive research certainly illustrates that pets can be therapeutic.

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Happiness

3 Powerful Ways Money Actually CAN Buy Happiness


Don't hold back, shop 'til you drop... as long as you spend that cash the "right" way.

When you need a little lift, do you like to go shopping?

Oh wait … or do you feel guilty shopping because it's bad, consumerism is wasteful, others aren't as fortunate as you, blah blah blah, and other reasons from a never ending list?

Well, here’s some news for you: Money can buy happiness!

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5 Things Your Therapist Won’t Tell You

The therapist-client relationship is unique. Therapists are prohibited from sharing their personal information with clients due to a strict code of ethics. But as a therapist, I can't help but share some secrets with you.

What is in our hearts is more important than what is in our brains.
The theories we specialize in are all wonderful, but research has proven time and time again that what influences how much you benefit from therapy is the quality of the relationship with your therapist. If you don’t feel understood and heard by your therapist, if you don’t think they are being honest enough with you and pushing you hard, if you don’t feel like you have an amazing connection with them, find a new therapist. The latest clinical techniques and tips that we have mastered are secondary to the bond and trust that we can help create with you in the therapy session.
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