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Children and Teens

How to Choose the Right Therapist for Your Child

Searching for the best therapist for your child can be challenging. The New York area has the highest concentration of therapists in the world. How do you know who to choose? Which therapist is the best for your child? As one parent recently said in my office, "There are thousands of therapists in this city. By the time I found the right therapist for my kid, I felt like I needed therapy."

Social problems, learning difficulties, and family disruptions are among the most popular reasons for contacting a therapist. Here are some tips on gathering referrals and choosing the right therapist for your child:

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Anxiety and Panic

7 Ways to Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety

It is estimated that nearly 17 million American adults at some point will meet criteria for social anxiety disorder or social phobia. The number of adults who struggle with shyness greatly exceeds that number. Fortunately, there are some effective strategies to overcome shyness and social anxiety and gain confidence:

1. Act confidently. 

Confidence comes through action, learning, practice, and mastery. Remember when you learned how to ride a bike? It was terrifying at first, but after you just went for it and tried it, you got it, and felt confident. Social confidence works the same way.
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Manage Your Dating Attitude Before It Manages You

If you’re a woman who’s been wanting marriage for a long time, and it hasn’t happened, possibly your attitude has been holding you back. Women in my "Marry with Confidence" workshops have expressed these attitudes:

All the good men are married.
There aren’t enough single men in my area.
Men my age want a much younger woman.
Men want a thinner woman.
I’m afraid of getting into a bad marriage.
I’m too flawed to create a good marriage.

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5 Ways to Help Your Child Through Trauma

Something traumatic is bound to happen to your child as he or she grows up. Whether they need surgery, sustain an injury, lose a family member, or worse, these events have the potential to make your child stronger and bring you closer to them. It all depends on your reaction.

Traumatic events do not guarantee that your child will become traumatized. Here are several ways to help your child through these difficult times:

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3 Subtle Signs It’s Time to See a Therapist

We often think of therapy as a last resort or crisis center. When things have turned dire, after we’ve exhausted all our options, then it’s time to contact a professional.

But the sooner you get help, the better. For starters, waiting too long can chip away at the motivation and energy we need to create significant, lasting change, said Ashley Thorn, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Salt Lake City, Utah.

Waiting too long also means that negative patterns or behaviors become more entrenched, taking more time, money and effort for improvement, she said. And it means needlessly living with extra suffering and stress.
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Anxiety and Panic

Psychology Around the Net: May 30, 2015

This week's Psychology Around the Net will teach you about the connection between personal scents and happiness, how brain stimulation techniques might treat obsessive-compulsive disorder, the similar effects between oxytocin and alcohol, and more.

Do People Transmit Happiness by Smell? Using scent samples, new research shows you could pick up on others' positive emotions through their sweat.

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Is Popularity Relevant to Your Life as an Adult?

The level of popularity you experienced in childhood and as a teenager is still affecting you today in ways that you may not even realize. And that ignorance could be holding you back in your life -- in your career, your relationships, and more.

Popularity, it seems, is not something that is just important in high school. It affects how we rise in our career -- or get stuck going nowhere fast.

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Avoid These 3 Crucial Relationship Mistakes

Don't let these mistakes change your relationship for the worse.

Does this sound familiar? You've been together for a while now and have reached the "comfortable" stage in your relationship.

You sometimes forget to shave your legs. He doesn't call as often in the day as he should. You're both in the habit of watching TV during dinner or playing around on Facebook instead of actually talking to each other.
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3 Eye-Opening Lessons for Rethinking Rejection

Think about the last time you were rejected. Maybe it was by your boss or partner or even a stranger. Either way, it was probably painful. In fact, for many of us rejection is downright terrifying -- so much so that we try to avoid it at all costs.

Our fear of rejection might stop us from pursuing our dreams or passions, from even entertaining certain ideas (what if others think this is dumb? Never mind I’ll just scrap it). It might stop us from pursuing a relationship, like asking someone out. It might stop us from talking to a professor or supervisor about a project.
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Combating Anxiety

Anxiety is one of the most common mental illnesses. Anxiety is a normal reaction to many situations, but can become excessive (as in obsessive-compulsive disorder or post-traumatic stress disorder). According to the National Institute of Mental Health, 43 million Americans were diagnosed with some type of mental illness in the past year.

While there is no true quick fix, there are a few things you can do to make living with anxiety easier:

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Beware of Anxiety Scams on the Internet

Anxiety affects 40 million Americans. When there is that big of a market, you can rest assured that there will be scams claiming to be able to treat it. How are you supposed to scrutinize and evaluate the many different anxiety websites out there? Which ones are scams, and which are legitimate? Here are some red flags to look for:

Lack of professional credentials.

I see many anxiety self-help websites from people without professional credentials. While anxiety sufferers themselves may have much to offer from their experiences, only therapists, psychologists or psychiatrists are trained to treat mental health disorders.
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