Ever wish you were someone else, said something else or did something else? As someone who has stuck their foot in their mouth more times than necessary, I understand the suffering that comes with the territory. Envisioning what could be instead of what is can be a painful experience. Recreating scenes in your head with a different, better, more positive outcome, however, is like a prison.

It’s often not what really happens that hurts us. It’s usually the anticipation of something or the desire to make reality what it’s not that causes us the most suffering in life.

To truly be happy, we need to free ourselves from the fantasy of how we want things to be and learn to find the beauty in the ugly truth of what is. This may mean accepting that a loved one has a serious illness, being more mindful of your current experience, understanding that you can’t do everything and help everyone or realizing who’s truly responsible for your happiness. Our top posts this week will address each of them.

{Flickr photo by Chris Harvey Photo}

3 Key Mindfulness Practices for Calm, Self-Compassion and Happiness
(Mindfulness & Psychotherapy) – True freedom comes from awareness. To heal yourself and find your own path toward happiness, try these three short practices. It will get you on a path toward living your life instead of always running on auto-pilot.

Seven Habits to Bring Out the Best in Life and Relationships, 2 of 2
(Neuroscience & Relationships) – The one person responsible for your happiness? You! Here are three more positive habits that can help improve your life and your relationships.

Mindful Parenting: Finding a New Definition of Productivity
(Mindful Parenting) –  Feeling unproductive? As a parent, your to-do lists may never get done. Accepting this and finding a balance are key to being a more mindful parent.

Financing Addiction: 5 Ways To Stop Enabling And Become Part Of The Solution
(Addiction Recovery) – How do you care for someone who is addicted to drugs or alcohol? Understanding the difference between supporting and enabling them is key. This should help you determine where to draw that line.

Video: Understanding How Psychotic Disorders Control Behavior
(Caregivers, Family & Friends) – It’s overwhelming to learn a loved one has a psychotic disorder. This post and video provides information and resources on what you can expect in terms of securing treatment, the process of mental health assessment and common symptoms that accompany psychotic disorders.