No matter who we are, where we live, how much money we have or what we do for a living, we all essentially want the same thing. We want to feel validated that our worries, feelings and emotions are justified. We want to be seen, heard and felt valued for who we are. We want to know that how we feel and what we think is normal. And most important, we want to be both loved and understood.

Knowing these things, can we change the way we perceive our relationships? Can we change the way we treat ourselves and others?

That’s a hope I have and a realistic resolution you could have for 2011. A simple change to gain a worthy result.

Recently, my great aunt was snappy on the phone with my dad, I took the chance and spoke to her, validating her concerns, calming her fears, and noticed an instant change her attitude. It got me thinking, the next time someone is curt with you, try doing something different than reacting back with that same degree of sass. You may inspire change in others around you. You may begin to spread compassion, not only in your heart, but in the heart of others.

What a wonderful way to begin the new year! For more tips to inspire change, I hope you’ll check out our top 5 posts of this week:

Too Much Perfectionism

(The Creative Mind) – Here, The Creative Mind discusses everything you always wanted to know about perfectionism. The good, the bad and the ugly (e.g. Black Swan).

The Uncooperative Subconscious Mind: Saboteur or Scared Parent?

(Neuroscience & Relationships) – Here’s one reason why you may be reacting defensively to your loved ones or misinterpreting situations as threats. After you read it, learn what you can do to transform your thoughts to transform your life.

Moms Eating Habits And Viewpoints Influence Kids Eating Healthy

(Family Mental Health) – It seems that you are not only what you eat, but your children are what you eat too. Moms this post is for you! What you eat and what you think about food may be influencing your kid’s eating habits.

“No Leave, No Life.” Can Death Anxiety be Therapeutic?

(The Therapist Within) – This post will make you think about death in a new way, a more positive one. How being conscious of our short time on earth can bring more meaning to your life.

(Movies & Mental Health) – An interesting look at The Social Network and how it can provide useful insights into the power of narcissistic injury and typical defenses against it.