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Trying to figure out how to move on after a breakup is rough. Having a broken heart is no cup of tea — and learning how to get over a breakup, especially a painful one with someone you love, is a lesson no one wants to learn.
So what do you do next after letting go of love?
Have you worked hard to get out of a relationship that wasn’t serving you? Are you feeling overwhelmed by emotion and the empty space that is the result letting go of your love?
You are not alone. Learning how to heal a broken heart and move on is hard, but not impossible.
Here are 5 ways to get over a breakup with someone you love and heal your broken heart.
1. Make a List.
If you want to know how to heal a broken heart, you’re going to have to think back about your relationship. One of the first things you should do when you have to walk away from someone you love is to make a list — a list of all of the reasons you need to walk away from that person.
When you spend time with someone, you’re regularly exposed to things that remind you that you need to walk away. When you finally get away from that person, those things tend to recede into your memory, making the breakup seem unnecessary. They get replaced in the forefront of your mind with the good things, the good times, all the things you loved about that person.
And with the good things at the front of your mind, you’re vulnerable to returning to the relationship that is causing you pain.
So, make a list. Make a list of everything you can think of that’s making you walk away from the person you love. Keep that list close and refer to it when you are missing him.
You left this relationship for a reason. Keep that reason in mind daily going forward.
2. Cut Off All Contact.
There is nothing more tempting, when you are missing your lost love, then to stalk him or her.
Unfortunately, these days there are so many ways to keep tabs on a lost love; social media has made it all so easy. And keeping tabs on a lost love makes it really hard to let go and move on. You’ll never be able to move on and learn how to get over heartbreak when you’re constantly reminding yourself of them.
I know that it doesn’t seem like a big deal to take a quick peek at your lost love’s feed, but you know there’s a chance you could see something on there that you just don’t want to see. Perhaps him out there having fun without you, doing something that you used to do together, or even doing it with someone else. And seeing any or all of those things could send you into a tail spin.
So eliminate all ties to your loved one on social media. Block him on your phone. Don’t ask your mutual friends about what he is doing. Tell yourself that he has moved to Mars and that you will never see him again.
You will be glad you did.
3. Exercise and Get Hot!
OK, so you’re single again and you suddenly find yourself with lots of free time. And you might also find yourself craving a lot of ice cream.
Now is not the time to sit around watching Netflix and eating ice cream. While those things might be fun in the moment, in the long run, they will only make you feel worse.
The best thing that you can do for yourself right now is to exercise and take care of yourself. When you are going through a hard time, the number one thing that can make you feel better is the endorphins that are created through exercise. Those chemicals will actually make you feel very different from the sad and lonely person you could be if you focused on your heartbreak.
Furthermore, if you get enough sleep and eat well, your body will feel strong and it will help with your healing.
And, best of all, taking care of yourself will make you look hot, way hotter than you might look if you only indulged in Netflix and ice cream. And looking good is an excellent way to “win” your break up. Imagine the look on his face when he sees you!
So, again, this is the time to take care of yourself. Don’t let yourself fall apart. The pulling yourself back together will be so much more difficult if you do.
4. Do Something That You Have Always Wanted To Do.
Another thing to do with all of that free time is to start doing something that you have always wanted to do. Don’t sit around feeling sorry for your empty space — do something with it.
If you can, pick up a hobby you’ve always wanted to try. A creative outlet can be a great way to distract yourself. For example, let’s say a woman was devastated after a breakup. One thing she always wanted to do was write.
Well, in this day and age, it is quite possible to write and get what you write out to the masses without going through the process of publishing a book or getting a magazine to publish your article. You can simply write a blog and post it to a variety of platforms available online.
So she started writing about her broken heart, what happened, her insights about what she could have done differently, the way she felt with him gone from her life. It was hard work for her, emotionally, but soon she started to get a following.
Other women who were going through the same things appreciated her written words and started commenting on her articles. As a result, she built a small community of women who supported each other through rough times.
What is it that you have always wanted to do? Pick one thing and start doing it.
You have the time. Life is short. Don’t waste it!
5. Reconnect With Old Friends…and Make New Ones.
For many people, relationships mean you disconnected with people who might previously have been a big part of your life. None of us do it intentionally, or with malice, but it does happen. And those friends are still out there.
Make an effort to reach out to those friends, the friends who knew you “before.” They will be happy to have you back and happy to support you through this time.
Also, now is a great time to make new friends. If you don’t know where to start, try something like Bumble BFF, an app for women to connect with other women to find some new friends — ones who are single and want to get out and do things like you do. You can connect with some amazing women in just a few weeks.
People are a great way to get you through a tough time. And you have lots of people. Reach out and find them again.
Letting go of love is devastating and a big part of getting through it is by figuring out what to do next.
Having a plan is always the best course of action, I believe, much better than TV and junk food and hours spent dreading the future.
So now it’s time to get up off the couch. Get a notebook and make a list of all of the reasons that you broke up with your guy. Keep it close.
Block your guy on your phone and on every social media platform you are connected on. Get out there and exercise. Do something that you have always wanted to do. Reconnect with old friends.
Fill your calendar with things that will make you happy.
I know it doesn’t seem possible, but life does not end with a breakup. Rather, it begins again. It is up to you to take advantage of this new beginning and make the most of your life.
You can do it! It will be worth it!
This guest article originally appeared on YourTango.com: 5 Uplifting Ways To Heal Your Broken Heart.