5 Enlightened Ways to Think About Mental Health
Life is hard even under the best of circumstances. Without physical and mental health, it’s difficult to enjoy life and to thrive. It makes good sense to take care of ourselves and that includes getting help when we suffer physically or psychologically. When we feel sick we get ourselves to the doctor. And, when we feel so bad that we think about hurting ourselves or others, or when we cannot engage positively in work or in relationships, or we cannot accomplish what we want, we should seek help to feel better. It’s what all of us deserve!
Mental health shouldn’t be a dirty word. Still damaging stigmas prevail allowing ignorance to end lives. Judging others or ourselves for our suffering is just plain harsh, not to mention counterproductive. When was the last time telling a depressed person to “get over it” worked? Try never! And using shame as a tactic to “encourage” someone to be what you think they should be only adds to a person’s suffering.
Mental health problems should be thought of no differently than physical health problems. In fact, they are completely related: mental health problems affect physical health and physical health problems affect mental health. We need a world where no one feels embarrassed or ashamed about their suffering. We need a world where suffering evokes only kindness, compassion, and a desire to help.
Here are 5 enlightened ways to think about mental health:
- Everyone suffers! I have never met anyone who is happy and calm all the time. It’s just not possible, no matter how good someone’s life looks like from the outside. Most people suffer at some point in their life from anxiety, depression, aggression, PTSD, addictions, and other symptoms. And, if a person is lucky enough to never suffer psychologically, they surely love someone who does suffer in these ways. Instead of living lives of quiet desperation, to paraphrase Henry David Thoreau, let’s encourage honest talk. If someone gets uncomfortable, we can talk about that too.
- Mental health check-ups are an important part of wellness. Do you feel ashamed when you go for a check-up at your internist? No, in fact you probably feel quite good that you are taking care of your health. Yet most people are ashamed to call a psychotherapist for a consultation. This makes no logical sense. A mental health checkup is a great idea especially if you are suffering and not able to function the way you want.
- Gym for the brain! That’s exactly how I describe therapy for my patients who come in feeling bad that they “have to come to therapy.” In our society, we praise people for working out at the gym. We think of them as maintaining their health and taking good care of themselves. Well that’s no different for a person wanting to enhance their psychological wellbeing. Therapy grows new brain cell networks, calms the mind and body, makes it easier to meet life’s challenges, and helps us thrive as we become the best versions of our self that we can.
- Education in emotions is a game-changer! We live in a challenging society because it is not very nurturing. That’s why rates of anxiety, depression and addiction have skyrocketed and, according to a new disturbing report from the CDC, suicide rates are steadily increasing. At the very least, our society could provide an accessible and understandable education on emotions. This would help us all understand how our childhood experiences translate to directly affect our adult mental health (for better and for worse). Even better, our schools could teach us tools like the Change Triangle, and skills for managing relationships and interpersonal conflicts constructively so bullying, for example, would become a thing of the past. Stigmas and judgments are caused by ignorance. Education on emotions and mental health can do a lot to eradicate stigmas and even reverse the current epidemic in depression, anxiety and addictions.
- Question assumptions, judgements and fears around mental health and mental illness. Many of us fear difference. When people feel, act or look different than we do, we tend to judge them. Judgement, while a form of emotional protection achieved by distancing ourselves from those we fear or don’t understand, is also destructive for all of us. Judgement is the basis of stigma and justifies the horrible way we treat people who suffer mental illnesses and addictions. Judgement shames those who suffer and that is all of us. No wonder shame-based depressions are rampant in our society. Instead of judging others for their emotions, can we instead be curious about our assumptions and question where we learned to judge or fear people who struggle psychologically?
Most suffering can be eased with support from nurturing others, proper treatment and a variety of resources. Let’s be proud to grow our mental health. What a difference it makes to wholeheartedly say to someone seeking help, “Good for you! I could use some gym for my brain too!
A+ for trying!
Jacobs Hendel, H. (2018). 5 Enlightened Ways to Think About Mental Health. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 29, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-enlightened-ways-to-think-about-mental-health/