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3 Reasons It’s So Tough to End a Toxic Relationship

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Sometimes life is freaking TOUGH.

Bad relationships don’t happen all at once, they creep up on us. If they were bad in the beginning, no one would ever enter into them. So, why do we stay in bad relationships long after it dawns on us that it’s time to go?

Here are three reasons why leaving a bad relationship is a lot harder than it sounds:

1. You Feel Like You’ve Invested Too Much Time to Give Up Now

Once we start a relationship and put in the effort to keep it going, stopping feels like we’re losing our investment. The realization that we’ve wasted months or years of our life staying with the wrong person is often too much for us to come to terms with.

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2. You Want to Be the Hero of Your Relationship

Sometimes we fancy ourselves as the other person’s savior. We tell ourselves nonsense such as, “They would be so devastated by the breakup that they would never recover.”

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Hooey! You aren’t doing anyone any favors by continuing a relationship with him or her because you feel bad about telling the other person it’s over. Yet, plenty of people stick around, feeling too much shame to admit that they are dying inside.

3. You Make Yourself Believe that This Relationship is What You Really Want — Even Though You Don’t

This one is tricky. Confirmation bias (also called confirmatory bias or my side bias) is defined as, “a tendency for people to favor information that confirms their preconceptions or hypotheses regardless of whether the information is true.”

What this means for relationships is that once you get into one, you will work hard to confirm that continuing the relationship is a good choice. This natural tendency is helpful when we’re in a good relationship because seeing the good helps us get through the hard times. Unfortunately, this is a disaster when we find ourselves in a toxic pairing.

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In the honeymoon phase, we often tell everyone (particularly ourselves) how excited we are about our new mate. Then, as the realization hits that the other person is not good for us, we’ll stick around for a while (sometimes a lot) longer in an emotional space of being unwilling to admit that we cut the wrong pony from the herd.

This guest article originally appeared on YourTango.com: Why It’s So. DAMN. Hard. To Leave A TOXIC Relationship.

3 Reasons It’s So Tough to End a Toxic Relationship



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Guest Author, P. (2018). 3 Reasons It’s So Tough to End a Toxic Relationship. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 20, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/blog/3-reasons-its-so-tough-to-end-a-toxic-relationship/
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Last updated: 8 Jul 2018
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