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10 Common Reactions to Urinary Incontinence that Impede Care-Seeking

Our lives are a dynamic flurry of family and professional activities -- our work, our families and friends, and duties on the home front. Some of us have additional challenges due to ill health, financial stress, elder care or marital breakdown. When small urine leaks begin to appear every now and then, they might feel like a nuisance amid the noise of everyday life. Research tells us that women wait about five to 10 years to seek assistance for urinary incontinence.

Our beliefs about the problem are important because they influence how and when we take action. The following are 10 common reactions that deter or delay sufferers, especially women, from seeking professional advice or assistance for the problem:

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Simple Tips & Tweaks for Creating a Productive To-Do List

I love lists. And I make many of them. I make lists of my daily tasks. I make lists of the articles I need to write each month -- both in a Word doc and in a separate notebook. I make lists in most of my blog posts. I make lists for different projects. I make lists for the grocery store. I make lists of the bills I need to pay and write down when I’ve paid them. I make lists of books I’d like to read. I probably make lots of other lists that simply aren’t coming to mind right now.

With my penchant for listmaking, it seems I’ve found a kindred spirit in Paula Rizzo, the founder of
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Psychology Around the Net: January 31, 2015

This week's Psychology Around the Net will have you rethinking how you look at depression medications, constantly seeking the approval of others, and -- oh, yeah -- whether to have a glass of wine or beer with your dinner (seriously)!

Beer Compound Could Help Fend Off Alzheimer's and Parkinson's Diseases: We've all heard about the potential health benefits of wine, but new reports show the compound from hops -- a flower of the hop plant used as a basic ingredient in brewing beer -- could help "protect brain cells from damage -- and potentially slow the development of disorders such as Alzheimer's and Parkinson's diseases."

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Are You an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel? Thoughts on the 4 Tendencies Quiz

Last week, I unveiled my Four Tendencies quiz, which helps people determine their Tendency. I developed this framework as part of my research on habits for my book Better Than Before. To take the Quiz, click here.

I’m very gratified that so many thousands of people have taken the quiz -- and even more gratified by the notes at the end. The comments are fascinating. Zoikes.

After reading those comments, I’d make a few observations.

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6 Essentials in Healing from an Affair

I got a call from a TV reporter after the infamous "blue dress" incident during Clinton's presidency. He wanted to do an interview about the likelihood that the Clintons would break up, given the stress of Hillary discovering Bill lying and cheating.

I started smiling. Arkansans, and I am one, have a long history with the Clintons.

Then I stated, "If most couples didn't make it through affairs, the divorce rate would be even higher than it is now. You just hear about the ones that don't."
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Best of Our Blogs: January 30, 2015

Imagine trying to live your life normally when you have an injured knee, physical illness or disease. We do the same with emotional problems we try to avoid.

We try, for example, to pretend like we can do it all. We blindly hope we don't need that medication anymore, that we'll start taking care of ourselves tomorrow or that the stress we're enduring is not only normal, but necessary in order to have a meaningful, fulfilling life.

We think we're fine, but what we don't know is how it's all affecting us, how we have to compensate in other ways to adjust for the things we're not willing to face.

Maybe you're not ready for change. But sometimes the first step is acknowledging that injured knee, that we need help or that we're really burnt out. Our posts this week may not change your life, but it could inspire you to begin the process of finally taking care of yourself.

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Feeling Overwhelmed? 5 Tips that May Help

Many of us tend to think these kinds of thoughts daily: "I’m sooo busy. Life has been really overwhelming. I feel like I’m being torn apart. I wish I could clone myself, so I could keep up. I’ll relax after I’m done with all the tasks on my list -- though I have no idea when that’ll actually happen."

We may feel like we're in a constant state of stressed out and overwhelmed.
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Be Like Nature: Bend & Be Resilient

Nature teaches us a lot about what it takes to survive in the world. If only we'd listen.

As I watch the snow fall outside my window, I can't help but be impressed. This perfect snow clumps on the tree branches, building a forest of white.

But branches can only take so much weight. What happens when the snow becomes too much?

This is where nature's amazing architecture comes into play. Nature has a simple solution to the weight of the world -- and it's one we can all learn from.

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Top 10 PTSD Blogs of 2014

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) often is linked to military veterans, but it can affect anyone following a traumatic event. There are five subtypes: normal stress response, acute stress disorder, uncomplicated PTSD, comorbid PTSD and complex PTSD. Sleep disturbances and flashbacks, where the sufferer relives the trauma, are hallmarks of the disease.

PTSD has several other symptoms, some of which overlap with other disorders. These include a loss of interest in regular activities, feeling depressed, anxious and difficulty concentrating. A person with PTSD may find it difficult to relate to loved ones. Instead they are emotionally distant and consumed with a sense of dread.

These blogs have been selected because they contain links and strategies specifically for people with PTSD in its various forms.

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Infestation Anxiety: The Enemy Within

As Ebola fears wane, don’t be fooled. The next great threat is always upon us.

There is a little-known psychological disorder called "Ekbom syndrome" in which a person believes that insects are crawling underneath their skin. Patients often tear their skin off in an attempt to extract the invisible vermin.

Even though it’s a rare disorder affecting about 100,000 Americans, somehow we can all relate to the maddening anxiety of those afflicted. There is something universally cringe-worthy about the experience of infestation.
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