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ADHD Experts Reveal Their Favorite Ways to Manage Procrastination

For people with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), procrastination tends to be a stubborn problem. “I don't know anyone with ADHD where procrastination is not an issue,” said Roberto Olivardia, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist and clinical instructor in the department of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.

That’s because this is the nature of ADHD and its neurological underpinnings. It’s difficult for the brain of someone with ADHD to get stimulated unless the activity is interesting, there are major consequences or there is a sense of urgency, he said.

“For people with ADHD, there are two time zones: Now and Not Now. If it is not happening now, the ADD-er will tend to procrastinate until it gets closer to the ‘Now’ zone.”

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How to Stop an Anger Attack in its Tracks

He’s raging again. Getting right in your face, making wild accusations, attacking, criticizing and blaming everyone else except himself.

Every time he loses it -- and it happens a lot -- it feels interminable. Like being trapped in an endless cycle of being someone else’s punching bag. It’s exhausting, upsetting, infuriating and you don’t know how much you can take or what to do, you just want it to stop.

If this describes an experience you keep having, there’s an effective strategy you can apply to protect yourself and gain control.

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How a Poor Self-Image & Shame Negatively Impacts Your Relationships

Is shame about your body affecting your relationship? Or do you have a child who has an eating disorder and it's affecting your family?

Shame plays a big role in the feelings related to food and it's important to understand the cause in order to treat it. Read on to learn about the feelings and actions that are often involved in the development of eating disorders and what you can do to help your relationships and family cope.

Why? Why does she think that losing weight is more important than anything else, even her health? Why doesn't she see herself as the bright, talented, athletic, attractive young woman that others see? These are among the questions most frequently asked by family members of a young woman with an eating disorder.

A large part of the answer to these questions can be found in understanding the emotion we call shame and its relation to self image.

More from YourTango: Bad Body Image? 15 Ways To Improve Your Self-Esteem

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How Healthy Couples Handle Tough Times

Tough times are a reality for every couple. Couples may face major life transitions, such as a new baby, new job or retirement, said Susan Lager, LICSW, a psychotherapist and relationship coach in Portsmouth, New Hampshire.

They may face ongoing stressors, such as a spouse’s ill health or a negative work environment, she said. They may face losses, such as the death of a friend or family member, or a financial crisis. While tough times affect us all, they can pile on additional stress to your romantic relationship.

Healthy couples get through these tough times -- and tough times can even help a couple get closer. Here’s how.

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Escaping the Depths of Mental Illness, Stigma & Parity Violations

Everybody is identical in their secret unspoken belief that way deep down they are different from everyone else.
~ David Foster Wallace, "Infinite Jest"

The quote above immediately reminds me of those who suffer with mental illness, and the difficult yet frequently experienced challenges imposed upon such people. Mental illness can be an extremely isolating experience, invisibly dividing the “sick” from the “healthy."

No matter the type of mental illness, my guess is that nearly all of those afflicted have felt, at some point during their illness, a sense of separation, an absence of belonging, an unusual and nagging feeling of being “different.”

I think that as a community, we can find relief in the idea that so many among us have a story, an experience, a loss of some sort, or a loved one or friend who has suffered from mental illness.

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Children and Teens

3 Reality-Based Tips for Raising Your Digital Native Children

A lot has been written about the effects of screen time and a child's healthy development.

Now the American Academy of Pediatrics, a professional guild association of pediatricians who like to promote fears about Facebook usage and suggest kids' violence comes from too much TV watching, has updated its guidelines for how children and teens should consume digital media.

But here's the thing -- guess how many teenagers and children they talked to in the creation of these guidelines?

If you guessed "zero," you would be right. In this day and age where our children and teens know more about living online than most adults, this seems like a gross oversight. But that's just the tip of the iceberg with the guidelines' problems.

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Are You Struggling with Seasonal Affective Disorder?

Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) -- sometimes known as the "winter blues" -- is an “equal-opportunity oppressor,” according to Norman Rosenthal, M.D., in his comprehensive book Winter Blues Survival Guide: A Workbook for Overcoming SAD. This form of clinical depression affects people of all ages -- even kids -- races and ethnic groups.

Fortunately, SAD is highly treatable. One of the keys to managing the disorder is knowing your personal pattern of symptoms. This plays a big role in how you’ll treat your disorder.

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Best of Our Blogs: October 29, 2013

Mindfulness is a buzz word these days. But is it a trendy concept, a fad, or a realistic way of living your life?

First of all, what is mindfulness? Mindfulness is a break, a mini-vacation from your thoughts and yet it's hard work. It's a way of opening your heart by being present and completely aware of the moment. It's both simple and complex, difficult and easy to practice.

Mindfulness requires checking into your life. At the surface, it feels refreshingly new and exciting. If you practice it, you will never feel more alive. At the same time, being more present also requires you to step into the dark shadows of fear, doubt, and pain, shadows that you may have been trying to avoid.

Many of us live in a bubble. We watch the news, search the internet, shop online and gossip with our friends as a way to detach from the realities of our lives. But change, disappointment, relationships, even an upcoming Halloween party can force us to see outside of our protective shells. We can either continue to hide from what's scary and deny it or we can open our eyes and walk fearful, but courageously through it. This week's post will teach you how to bravely accomplish the latter with tips on taking care of yourself in the process. Read them mindfully.
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7 Strategies to Be Productive at Work When You’re Depressed

According to Mental Health America, depression is as costly to the US economy as heart disease or AIDS, resulting in over $51 billion lost due to absenteeism from work and productivity losses. The average lost time at work due to depression is approximately 172 million days yearly.

Staying productive at work is undoubtedly among the most challenging components of my recovery. It’s hard enough to get out of bed some mornings, not to mention wrap my brain around a press release, blog post, or, God forbid, a presentation.

Some days I wonder why I bothered to put my two feet on the floor, as I accomplished nothing but staring into a computer for eight consecutive hours. Other days I am successful at squeezing a speck of productivity out of my depressed brain.

Here are a few strategies I use to get there.

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Help Design a T-Shirt for Mental Health

Goodjoe is holding a t-shirt design contest to help bring greater awareness to the value mental health. Here's how they describe the contest:

"Design an iconic t-shirt to inspire those going through a difficult time and/or to promote a message against mental health stigma.

Our hope is that when an individual sees these graphic t-shirts, it triggers a positive outlook direction of whatever situation he/she is going through. Feel free to use one of these following slogans or come up with your own, or use no slogan in your design."

We think it's a good cause and wanted to get the word out. The contest supports two non-profit mental health organizations.

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Anxiety and Panic

How to Do Present Moment Awareness Meditation

The present moment awareness meditation is simple and easy to use at any time of the day. It is very effective in helping you overcome anxiety and depression.

In order to get the best results, set aside a regular time of day such as first thing in the morning or last thing at night, preferably in the same place so as to ground the practice in your very being. You will find that regular use will dampen the physiological signs of anxiety.

If you extend your practice to a month or longer, you will be retraining your thinking patterns from past- and future-focused to present moment-focused (Brahmavamso, 1998). Then you will consistently feel more relaxed on an ongoing basis.

Here's how you do it.

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The 4 Most Common Types of Impulse Purchases

When we’re trying to change our buying  habits, one challenge is that marketers are so clever at enticing us into making impulse purchases.

In David Lewis’s book Impulse: Why We Do What We Do Without Knowing Why We Do It, he provides a list of the four main types of impulse buys, developed by industrial economist Hawkins Stern in 1962.

Do you recognize any of these categories in your own purchasing patterns?

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