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What JetBlue’s Pilot Meltdown Means

I've struggled to find something meaningful to say about the incident when the captain of a jetBlue flight suffered from what appeared to be a "nervous breakdown," resulting in his eventual restraint and later, criminal charges. I think criminal charges are wholly unwarranted and an example of the double-standard and prejudice we hold against people with possible mental health issues. It shows a shocking lack of judgment on the part of the U.S. prosecutors who charged Captain Clayton Osbon. (After all, would they have charged him if he had suffered a stroke instead, which led to similar behavior? I think not.)

But outside of this prejudice shown by people who don't treat a brain attack like a heart attack, there's very little more to say about this unfortunate incident. No lives were lost.

And, in fact, no lives have ever been lost due to a U.S. pilot's mental health issues, according to the Washington Post article.

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Best of Our Blogs: March 30, 2012

Yes we're imperfect beings that come with baggage. But we'd rather that you focus on our LV's (Louis Vuitton) than the truth.

Sound familiar?

No matter how we try to hide it, the thing we're most ashamed of, the lies and myths that we've told ourselves over the years will come back. In fact, they'll probably come back and bite us in the ass.

What are these secrets? And how do these repressed selves impact our lives?

They rip away possibility. They tell you that you can't be an artist and make a living. They convince you that your unworthy because your thighs are too big or you're not creative enough. They are the negative thoughts that beat you up, that scold you when you misplace things, that tell you all recovering addicts are unemployable and that you'll never be successful or happy.

But the only way to get rid of these untruths is to acknowledge they exist. To say, "Yes I am flawed. And I love myself anyway." It's about learning to be curious about our so-called weaknesses and to continually question what we deem to be truths. Is creativity, for example, something gifted to all, not just granted to the geniuses among us?

Most importantly, we must learn that all people (whether or not we're a size 0, carry lots of baggage, are recovering from an addiction or are creative or not) make mistakes and are all deserving of love, second chances and acceptance.
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Why You Aren’t Happily Ever After Anymore

This guest article from YourTango was written by Kim Olver.

People date, putting their best foot forward, to acquire the relationship they want. If you are married, you succeeded at the Compatibility Stage of Relationships, deciding you and your spouse had enough in common to make a lifetime commitment to each other. Congratulations! 

How many of you thought that was the hard part — that it would be relatively smooth sailing from there? How many were surprised by how much their partner changed, seemingly overnight? I know that happened in my marriage. I tell people it was as if my husband had an overnight visit from the Body Snatchers because he was so different from the moment we returned from our honeymoon. My head was spinning and perhaps his was too.

This happens in many marriages and there are two main reasons for it. First, once people have acquired something they want, they often begin to put their focus on something new, neglecting the maintenance behavior necessary to hold onto their original acquisition.

The second reason is the differing beliefs, values, and expectations we have around marriage. Let's look at each separately.

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My Psychotherapy Story for an Eating Disorder

I live in a town where eating disorder treatment is almost nonexistent. Feeling in danger of a relapse, I decided it was time to see a therapist. She was a licensed psychologist specializing in eating disorders and women's issues. I went voluntarily, not expecting what I received.

Everything was booked and set via email. My choice. I hate calling people. She mailed me all the paperwork from her office to bring with me on my first visit. What I loved when I first met her was that she didn't even want to look at the filled-out documents during session; she was eager to get down to talking. I was nervous being there, naturally, it's sensitive material being shared with a stranger. I remember which chair I sat in and how she sat on the couch.

Eager. Ready.

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When Tragedy Strikes at Home: The Need to Change the Mental Health System

On Wednesday, March 7, 2012, one of my mother’s worst nightmares came true.

At Western Psychiatric Institute and Clinic (WPIC) in Pittsburgh, Penn. -- one of the state's best psychiatric hospitals -- a shooting spree left two dead and seven injured.

WPIC helps educate future psychiatrists, psychologists, and masters-level mental health therapists. Medical doctors of other specialties, including surgeons, anesthesiologists and radiologists, and other health care professionals also receive training there. It is an institution where education, science, and practice merge together.

I remember the day I spoke to my mother about potential danger at mental health hospitals and the possibility of violent occurrences becoming my reality as a therapist providing treatment to various populations. Her eyes said it all; I could see the terror across her face. Many -- primarily professors, professional speakers, and coworkers -- reassured me that such incidents were rare because most institutions were highly secure and provided their employees with emergency protocols and trainings. WPIC trains their employees on issues relating to mental health policies, emergencies, and “unusual occurrences” -- that is, patient violence.

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Better Understanding The Secret

Thought = creation. If these thoughts are attached to powerful emotions (good or bad) that speeds the creation.
~ Rhonda Byrne, author of The Secret

Have you ever wondered why you meet certain people at certain times in your life? Of course it’s easy to fathom that the forces of fate are at work, but have you ever contemplated the possibility that it is you who are creating...
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Help Crisis Chat with Your Donation

Online crisis services have proven to reach young people in crisis that will not reach out for help in any other way. Every day, we know of hundreds of people who turn to the Internet for suicide support and crisis help. A service called CrisisChat is run by a group of local crisis centers. It is a free online crisis service, and it needs your help.

We are currently in a time-limited campaign to increase the funds raised to $10,000 by the end of March! Any amount you can contribute to making this happen would be appreciated... $5, $10, $30, $50, $100 or more.

You can also make the contribution in memory of someone lost by suicide, just post a comment at the end of your contribution.

If you haven’t already seen the video, I encourage you to watch it. A handful of dedicated and courageous people came together to make the video happen and I know you will be touched by the stories and music:

CrisisChat Promotional Video from Emotion Technology on Vimeo.

The campaign is specifically to expand hours on CrisisChat into the overnight hours, a time when many chat visitors have told us we need to be open -- when suicidal support is most needed (but also most difficult to find).

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How Is Your Love Defined?

This guest article from YourTango was written by Jianny Adamo.

Everyone wants love but not everyone finds it. Interestingly enough, when you love or are in love, you know exactly what it is. Love paints our view of the world and bestows purpose and meaning to life. Somehow, when love is absent or lost, amnesia sets in. It's hard to define love; you wonder if it's even real. You are either on a journey toward love or on a journey to defy it.

Love is fluid, offering different flavors and depths. In the attraction phase, being in love is an emotion producing, strong affection for some and an obsession for others. It's driven by chemistry racing around your brain and body, an experience many poets and artists have written about. It's euphoric and cannot be understood unless you have experienced it yourself.

This experience is a hallmark of new love, marked with preoccupation with your beloved and making the world around you disappear. It transcends time and commands your attention.

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6 Ways to Slow Down and Save Time

Moving by the seat of our pants isn’t that helpful for efficiency. For one, rushing can mean making silly but time-consuming mistakes, like misplacing important items, locking your keys inside the house or glossing over errors at work.

And we might miss out on life altogether. “When things go too fast, we aren’t cognitively able to process the information, so a lot of our lives literally whizzes by,” according to Christine Louise Hohlbaum, author of The Power of Slow: 101 Ways to Save Time in Our 24/7.

Below, Hohlbaum shares several helpful tips on slowing down and saving time.

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Best of Our Blogs: March 27, 2012

In an effort to protect our vulnerable selves, we hide and repress who we really are and only reveal our sparkling, shiny parts. But that shadow, the parts we deem unlovable, still exists. And wouldn't you know? They often show up in our judgment and criticism of others.

Sometimes that criticism comes in the form of mocking and complaining about people who appear to be different than us. It's the socially awkward neighbor, the overly sensitive friend or your partner who seems to constantly struggle with a mental illness. Yet, the more we criticize them, the more we unknowingly hurt ourselves.

Surprisingly, the one way we can learn how to love who we are, flaws and all, is to begin to change the way we perceive those we criticize. This means being open to understanding the introvert, the emotionally sensitive, those who are afraid of seeking help themselves. The posts this week, which delve into these topics and more, will give you a chance to practice acceptance and compassion for your loved ones and that in turn will help you to better love yourself.
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