Thank you for writing. You did a good job describing the problem, but you didn’t share what you have already done to help yourself.
This is treatable. PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder) and Bipolar disorder are both cyclical mood disorders. It is not uncommon for a woman to have both. In one study, PMS was reported by twice as many women who had been diagnosed with bipolar and depression than those who did not have a mental health diagnosis. Unfortunately, the combination can create worse symptoms.
There is no reason for you — and your family — to continue to suffer like this. You need to see a psychiatrist who has experience with the combination of the two diagnoses for an evaluation and suggestions for treatment. I found a number of studies that suggest medications that can be helpful.
I’m not a medical doctor so I can’t comment more than that. You need to see an MD psychiatrist who can provide you with the medication help and support you need.
You might also benefit from seeing a counselor to help you learn some additional coping strategies for times when symptoms feel so unmanageable. If you have difficulty explaining your situation to professionals, take your letter to us with you to the first appointment. That will jumpstart your session.
I wish you well.