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I’m very sorry if this is all out of place, I’m not sure how to state it. Firstly, I’ve never visited a therapist and i think I should but I’m too scared to ask for one.

So, it all started 2 years ago when I was having issues with school, I am already diagnosed with anxiety by a professional so I struggle a lot with social situations and can be very awkward, this causes me to not have many friends. I moved school at the start of 2020 and have many friends I suppose. But I have trust issues due to my old school and second guess every little thing, then u get upset over seeming nothing.

This went on for ages till I suddenly felt nothing, I don’t feel happy, sad, exited, love or anything. All my emotions are so fake all the time, whenever I laugh it’s forced and so obviously fake. Everything irritates me, like people touching me, touching my chair so it moves the slightest and just overall sounds in general. If I don’t make the sound it annoys me and instantly makes me angry, like I could murder someone angry… all my emotions are in my head and I don’t show anyone I’m angry because I can’t. It’s all bottled up inside and I’m scared one day I’m going to snap and do something I regret, I’m like a ticking time bomb. I don’t care about anyone around me either, I’ve slowly just started not caring about anything. I always help my friends with their problems but I honestly don’t care, it may seem cruel but everything just repeats itself everyday anyway.

Some days I physically can’t get out of bed, I feel like the only way I can be safe is if I stay in bed. My parents say I’m just lazy but it’s more than that and I just know it. I’ve started just not caring about my personal wellbeing, I don’t do anything to take care of myself, except showering. I feel like I’m slowly wasting away and every time I open my eyes, I want the day to end and it hasn’t even started for me.

I absolutely hate myself but I’m too scared to ask for help, I’ve thought on so many occasions like when I wake up, before I sleep, when I daydream or just while I’m laying in bed staring at the floor about how the world would just be better off without me here.

Mental Health Issues

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You mentioned that you are too frightened to ask for a therapist, but then said you were diagnosed with anxiety by a professional. I’m wondering how you were diagnosed with anxiety by a professional, if you’ve never seen a therapist. Typically, therapists provide those types of diagnoses. Perhaps you were diagnosed by your primary care physician or your pediatrician. Maybe that’s what you meant by being diagnosed by a professional.

I’m also curious about why, if you were diagnosed with this anxiety, you weren’t offered treatment. Most professionals, when they give a diagnosis, either refer the client for treatment or provide the treatment themselves. It is not clear what happened in your situation.

Your emotional numbness, irritability, anger, bottling up of emotions, feeling on edge, inability to get out of bed, and so forth, are all suggestive of depression. You would need to be evaluated by a professional to determine if depression is an appropriate diagnosis. It’s important to know the truth.

Many teenagers, feel the way you do about asking for help. It can be especially difficult when you first have to convince your parents that there is something wrong. As you noted, your parents don’t seem to think there’s anything wrong. Maybe that is because they don’t know all of the facts. Have you shared this information with them? Perhaps the only symptom they see is you staying in bed for too long, leading them to falsely believe that you’re just a moody teenager who likes to sleep. Do they know that you feel emotionally numb? Do they know that it’s physically difficult for you to get out of bed? Did they know that you feel like you’re going to snap? In all likelihood, they have not been made aware of those symptoms and are making assumptions based on limited information.

The solution to this problem is, to be honest with your parents about what you’re feeling. They need to know the truth. If they knew the full truth, in all likelihood, they would be doing more to help. If you share this information with them and they’re still unwilling to help, then contact the school counselor or another trusted faculty member. They are trained to know what to do in these situations and can help you. Even if it’s the summer and school is out of session, there’s likely a way to get in touch with a school representative via the Internet.

As for feeling frightened about seeking help, please understand that therapists are in the helping profession. It’s what they do. They know how to help people overcome the types of symptoms you are experiencing. They understand that initial sessions will be nerve-racking and are trained to help you feel comfortable about starting therapy. Give it a try and you will see there is nothing to be afraid of.

It’s especially important to ask for help given your belief that the “world would be better off” without you. That element of hopelessness, in your letter, provides insight into the depths of your suffering. The proper solution to this problem is to ask for help. Do it even if you’re frightened. Be brave because it is the right thing to do. I hope that you will give it a try. Good luck and please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

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Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2020). Mental Health Issues. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 15, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2020/07/25/mental-health-issues/
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Last updated: 23 Jul 2020 (Originally: 25 Jul 2020)
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