From a woman in the U.S.: My ex-boyfriend I broke up in October. We would do almost EVERYTHING together before we really started being official. We kind of had a messy break up. I didn’t really reach out to him after the break up. Almost a month later he texted me asking to be friends and i agreed. Little did i know it would be rocky.
We did good for the first couple weeks and then we started fighting almost about everything and he would be so hot and cold towards me. Recently we had a falling out because i felt like every time i would ask him to hang out, he would say he didn’t feel good. But yet he told me to let him know when i was available to hang out. So i kind of got upset and said things i probably shouldn’t of said. Then he came to a mutual friends party and was being really cold towards me and would say things to upset me.
And drinking, of course i said things i shouldn’t of said either. He left super upset, so the next day i tried reaching out to him and he wouldnt reply until finally he said “We should just keep this no talking thing going.” And he also said he wasnt mad anymore. So i told him i wish him best and i hope he finds what he’s looking for. Took him off my social media.
He’s never been so cold towards me before, and I know i’m at fault as well. We used to be such good friends, but yet i dont want to be just friends with him anymore. What should i do? Should i go into no communication and just work on myself? I’m lost and don’t know what to do at this point. Just need some advice.