COVID-19 has made travel impossible for now. That puts off dealing with your fear of flying but doesn’t end it. Hopefully we’ll all be able to travel again. Hopefully, you’ll be able to see your family again personally and not just with group chats. Hopefully, you and your husband will be able to take that trip.
You could use the current situation as an opportunity to deal with your fears so all that will be possible. I suggest you find an online therapist to work on your anxiety. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has been found to be very effective in helping people deal with irrational fears that limit their life in some way.
CBT is problem-focused. It helps people deal with unhelpful ways of thinking and it teaches people ways to effectively manage and cope with whatever is troubling them. You will learn how to face your fear instead of avoiding it, new ways to relax yourself, and how to use problem solving skills to address your anxiety. Your therapist will probably do roleplaying with you to help you gain some practice in managing your fear of flying.
Meanwhile, there are some good self-help workbooks on CBT available from booksellers. If you can’t find a therapist, you could commit to working through one or more of those books as a way to start taking charge of your fears.
I’m very glad you wrote. You are motivated to change. Missing your family and missing out on travel with your husband are powerful incentives for you to get active in solving the problem. It may be difficult to confront your fears but I have confidence that you can do it.
I wish you well.