Unfortunately, there’s probably not much you can do to escape your father’s wrath while you’re living in his home. Understandably, you are in school and have nowhere else to live but you are still making a choice to live with him. You could get a job and move out on your own. You are an adult and could theoretically find a job and live on your own. Of course, it would be difficult to live independently for financial reasons, especially while you’re still in school but continuing to live with your father, who you admittedly cannot stand, is a choice that you are making.
Perhaps another option may be for you to go live with a friend or other family member. I’m not sure if those options are available to you but you may want to think through who among your friends and family may have a place for you.
What about school? Many people who attend college live on campus. Is that an option for you? It may be more expensive but it may also be a way to separate yourself from your father.
In the meantime, if you have no choice but to live with your father, then you’re going to have to find a way to live with him despite his behavior. There’s probably very little you can do to change his behavior. You described him as narcissistic and that may or may not be true. It would’ve been helpful for you to have provided more examples of the type of behavior that you are calling narcissistic. Many people use this term colloquially and it means many things to many people.
It seems that the main problem is that he behaves in a way that you find intolerable and you’re attempting to find a way to tolerate him for the next year. The best that you may be able to do is to keep your distance from him. It’s his house and he can do what he wants. You can’t involve the police unless he’s engaging in illegal behavior. If you had a job, you would be spending less time with him. Finding a job would be advantageous to you financially and it would limit the time you spend with him. The less time you spend with him, the less you have to tolerate his behavior. Do whatever is necessary to spend less time with him.
You may also find it beneficial to consult a therapist. The therapist could help you to devise better strategies for interacting with your father and also assist you in finding a quicker way out of his home. Once your therapist learns more detailed information about your situation, they may have ideas about what could help. Contact your primary care physician and ask for a referral. They may know someone who can help you.
I wish I had a better answer for you but it can be difficult to deal with “narcissistic” individuals. I hope this helps. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle