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Extremely Worried That My Sister Has a Mental Illness

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My family and I are extremely worried about my older sister who is 38 yrs old. My sister and her two children have been living at my parents’ house for 9 years. I truly sense a mental imbalance.

She suffers from extreme moodiness, habitual lying, extreme disorganization, time management failure, extreme social disconnect, unstable work history, and unusual behavior. For ex) listening to her music via (headphones) and massaging my mom’s feet while everyone at my birthday part is singing happy birthday. Getting highly offended is the norm for her. It’s so extreme she will go half a year without speaking to me. She has done the same thing to all of our aunts as well. She is deteriorating more by the year.

She is very unusual in behavior especially around the entire family. She seems disconnected at all times and then she disappears and leaves. She does not have any close friendships and is extremely gullible with men. Sometimes I feel she has the mentality of a teenager. She has a carefree child-like demeanor.

She and I don’t have a relationship because she dislikes any advice I give her. She makes my nephews lie as well. I’m extremely worried about her and I just want to help her. She will not get tested to see if she has a mental illness. She’s never suffered from depression and is currently not taking any medications for any underlying illnesses.

Please help… What can I do I help my sister ??????

Extremely worried loving sister.

Extremely Worried That My Sister Has a Mental Illness

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Unfortunately, the reality is, there’s probably very little you can do to help your sister. She’s an adult who is not necessarily engaging in behavior that is severe enough to warrant involuntary hospitalization. Generally speaking, the laws are written such that an individual can exhibit all of the symptoms you have described, which are indeed worrisome, and not be forced into treatment. If your sister were suicidal or homicidal, or actively attempting to harm her sons or others, then she could be forced into a hospital temporarily to undergo an evaluation. Otherwise, she’s free to do what she wants. That means she’s under no obligation to have a psychiatric evaluation, to see a therapist, go to a hospital, and so forth.

You can monitor her behavior, ensure that her children are safe and are never put in harm’s way and offer her advice about seeking help. Unless you go to court and have her declared incompetent, which is extremely difficult even in the best of cases, monitoring may be all that you can do.

Another idea that may be worth exploring is a family intervention. An intervention typically involves the family coming together to relay a centralized message. The message could be that your sister’s behavior will no longer be tolerated and that she must seek help if she wants to continue living in the home. That may be one way to coerce your sister into seeking help. If the whole family were on the same page, relaying a unified message, essentially forcing her to seek help in order to continue living at home, she might then agree to consult a professional.

Alternatively, an intervention may not be a good idea. It may make her very upset and angry and she may then leave the home, with or without her children, causing more problems. Interventions can be challenging which is why it is always advisable to consult an experienced professional. They could assist in determining whether such an intervention would be useful.

In situations such as yours, in which you have an individual who evidently needs mental health treatment but who’s refusing to get it, I typically recommend that the family members consult a professional. The reason for this is mainly because you will likely need some assistance interacting with someone who obviously needs help but who is unwilling to get it. It can be difficult to love someone who needs help but who is unwilling to seek it. It’s frustrating for the people who love that individual and it’s difficult to endure. Thus, it would be advisable for you and your family to consult a therapist regarding your sister. They may have some ideas about how to best interact with her. Family therapy is also an option to consider.

I wish that I had a more satisfactory answer for you. There are no easy answers in these types of situations. I hope this helps. Please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

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Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2019). Extremely Worried That My Sister Has a Mental Illness. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 24, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2019/12/20/extremely-worried-that-my-sister-has-a-mental-illness/
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