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Cannot Remember Most Things That I Do or Say, Constantly Feel Like a Different Person and/or Age

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I have recently been trying to analyse ongoing issues such as feeling/acting/dressing differently day by day, and lack of memory. I was discussing with my boyfriend how I felt and that I honestly could not even remember my childhood or even recent events. I also told him that I felt that I was consistently battling with myself trying to determine things I like (hobbies, music, dressing). I asked him if he noticed anything odd about my behaviour day to day, and he mentioned that I seem to act differently and even sound differently at times. Ive also noticed that we will sometimes argue over something I apparently said or did but I cannot remember doing it. In the past this has happened in my relationships and I always believed they were messing with me.

Lately I feel emotionless and detached. I battle a bunch of voices talking all at once – mostly hurtful – humanlike hissing voice.

That is touching a bit on how I feel, and I would like advise on if I should proceed with an assessment or not.

Thank you!

Cannot Remember Most Things That I Do or Say, Constantly Feel Like a Different Person and/or Age

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Anytime you’re worried about something possibly being wrong, it’s always advisable to have an assessment. To answer your question directly, yes you should have an assessment.

You can do this several ways. You can contact your primary care physician, report your concerns and ask for a referral. Another option is to contact the local community mental health center and make an appointment. Report your concerns and they will conduct an assessment. It is always wise to have an objective, professional opinion.

In the meantime, you might try keeping a journal about your day-to-day activities. That might help to improve your memory.

Another idea is to record yourself on video. Virtually every smart phone has recording capabilities. That might also help to improve your memory. Whether you keep a physical journal or a video journal will depend upon what you’re comfortable with. A physical journal may be the easiest, since all you need is a pen and paper to start. It may also be good to do both.

If I were interviewing you, I would want to know more about several things. One would be whether you experience “losing time” meaning, are there times where you simply can’t remember what you are doing? It sounds like that may be the case but it would be good to have more details.

I would also want to know more about your boyfriend mentioning that you seem to act “differently and even sound differently at times.” It’s not clear what he means by that. You might ask him to record you acting or sounding differently. He could do this either by physically writing about it or by making a video recording. You could then share that information with whomever is providing the assessment. Having a video recording would allow you to physically see yourself behaving and sounding differently. Having that video would be very beneficial to the professional doing the assessment.

Some of your symptoms may be characteristic of dissociative disorders. Dissociative disorders are a group of mental health disorders in which an individual experiences a disconnection between their thoughts, memories and their everyday surroundings. Two main symptoms include amnesia and loss of time.

Other symptoms include being detached from one’s emotions, distorted perceptions about self-identity and those around you, stress in important areas of one’s life, inability to cope with stress, and depression and anxiety.

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Health Disorders (DSM) identifies three main dissociative disorders. These include: dissociative amnesia, dissociative identity disorder (DID), and depersonalization derealization disorder. Individuals with these disorders often have trauma histories. The stress associated with having these dissociative experiences can sometimes lead to suicidal thinking.

When choosing a mental health professional, consider someone who specializes in dissociative disorders and/or a trauma-informed therapist. They would be in the best position to help you. It would also be good to have a medical evaluation to rule out a physical cause. Good luck and please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

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Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2019). Cannot Remember Most Things That I Do or Say, Constantly Feel Like a Different Person and/or Age. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 20, 2020, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2019/12/06/cannot-remember-most-things-that-i-do-or-say-constantly-feel-like-a-different-person-and-or-age/
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