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A friend of mine recently broke down emotionally and told me she believes she may be suffering symptoms of early-onset dementia. When I asked her why she felt this way, she said it was because she is having a hard time remembering work-related tasks and is also losing large chunks of time without any recollection of what may have occurred during those periods. She is only 56 years old, and to my knowledge, she is currently only taking medication for depression and is also treated for sleep apnea, however it is important to note that she has always claimed to have zero recall ability, which I always felt was just an excuse for her to use so she wouldn’t have to take responsibility for her brain bloopers. Also important to note is that she doesn’t take her SSRI every day like she is supposed to, and when I get on her for that, her response is that she, of course, forgot. I have experience with the onset of dementia symptoms, as my Nonni suffered from it, and I’m definitely not seeing the same cognitive deterioration in my friend. However, she has been experiencing some extremely stressful events recently in both her personal life and her professional life, which has triggered the onset of panic attacks. The major stressor in her life right now is dealing with her step son’s drug relapse and for the past 6 months, she has suffered tremendous emotional and financial losses because of his addiction. To me, her symptoms seem to be pointing to PTSD and/or possible DID, rather than dementia, so I’m seeking expert advice as to what this may possibly be and, more importantly, the best approach for treatment. Thank you in advance for considering my query.

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First, I think your friend is lucky to have you in her life. Your level of caring is inspiring. There are several things that can cause memory loss and you have identified Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), Depression, and dementia. Let’s take a look at each one.

PTSD comes from a chronic mental and emotional stress that happens as a result of a deep psychological shock that most often disturbs sleep, with a constant recollection, usually with vivid detail of the shock or injury that’s taken place. (To learn more about PTSD, please read here.) But there are many variations of what causes a posttraumatic stress disorder, one of which is known as Complex PTSD (C-PTSD).

You will learn in this link that C-PTSD has different criteria than the diagnosis for PTSD, but this differential is subtle and not often fully recognized, even by therapists. Also, C-PTSD is not a formal diagnosis that appears in the Diagnostic Statistical Manual (DSM) which is used by clinicians for identifying a collection of symptoms. It is classically seen as something that has emerged from an assortment of different sources:

  • The client experienced prolonged and multiple traumas lasting for a period of months or even years.
  • The traumas come from someone who the victim had a deep interpersonal relationship with and was part of his or her primary care network, the most common example being a parent.
  • They experienced these traumas as permanent features of life, seeing no end in sight.
  • They had no power over the person traumatizing him or her.

I am not suggesting your friend has this, but I am suggesting it may be worth having her make an appointment with a clinical psychologist who is licensed to be able to perform testing that could help you identify your diagnosis more readily. Because C-PTSD isn’t an official category in the DSM individuals who may meet its criteria may have been given the label PTSD because it is the only one officially recognized.

Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) is something that would also need to be diagnosed by a mental health professional, typically a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist. For an accurate assessment, a direct evaluation in person with a professional is best. You can learn more specifically about DID here.

In the past DID was known as (and is still sometimes referred to as) Multiple Personality Disorder. The disorder is a way the psyche tries to deal with traumatic or abuse and the personalities have emerged to help cope with different aspects of life. Very often these personalities are compensatory for something the individual is unable to do in their life. As an example, an unassertive person might form an aggressive or highly assertive personality to compensate.

A common symptom is for an individual with DID to lose track of time and there may be significant intervals that are lost due to one of the entities takes control. It is typically not commonly diagnosed in the population, and the best methods of treatment often involve psychotherapy aimed at integrating the identities into the core personality.

Most typically there are several symptoms that underly DID and the primary one is that it disrupts the person’s identity as other “personalities” or personality states manifest. These often include different voices, and in some cultures can even be identified during these states as being possessed.

These states disrupt the individual’s identity because there is a gap between one’s sense of self and motivation toward one’s goals with changes in emotional expression, behaviors, memories, feelings, and perceptions. Often these gaps result in memory loss of everyday events, including the specific features of one’s own personality and identity. The role of wife, sister, student, girlfriend, etc., that might make up the individual’s identity are usurped by other, interfering and often competing personalities. These disruptions cause gaps in memory that are beyond what would be considered normal forgetting. These indicators typically cause significant stress in the person’s life because it directly impacts the quality of relationships, and aren’t the result of other medical issues such as seizures.

Depression symptoms can vary from mild to severe and can include:

  • Feeling sad or having a depressed mood
  • Disengaged, with a loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed
  • Changes in appetite — weight loss or gain unrelated to dieting
  • Insomnia or sleeping too much.
  • Loss of energy or increased fatigue
  • Anxiety-related physical activity (e.g., hand-wringing or pacing) or slowed movements and speech (actions observable by others)
  • Loss of meaning or purpose, feeling worthless or guilty
  • Difficulty thinking, concentrating or making decisions
  • Thoughts of death or suicide
  • A clinical psychologist can offer an evaluation that can help make a definitive diagnosis, and a psychiatrist can make a more definitive analysis of the need for medication.

In the meantime, your friend can take this assessment tool here at PsychCentral and learn more about depression here.

Dementia is caused by many conditions. As you will learn in this article there are a wide variety of symptoms and memory loss is almost always included as a primary one. Some conditions that cause dementia can be reversed, and others cannot. The two most common forms of dementia in older people are Alzheimer’s disease and multi-infarct dementia (sometimes called vascular dementia). These types of dementia are irreversible, which means they cannot be cured, however, symptoms can often be treated.

Rather than guess at what the possibilities are in a diagnosis a very thorough evaluation by a neuropsychologist, clinical psychologist, psychiatrist, or neurologist would be the first place to get your friend to. The stressors you mention she is going through could be the source — or the aggravation of the condition. Only a good clinical evaluation by one of these professionals with experience in making a differential diagnosis would help sort through what is at the root of your friend’s problem and what a good treatment approach should be.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

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Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2019). Losing Time. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 26, 2020, from
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