Thank you for writing us and your English was easy to understand. I think that at 16 years of age the responsibility of being a mom and a wife could, indeed, be terrifying. It is daunting to have responsibilities for another human being for the rest of their life, and hopefully you will have a great deal of life to be sampled before becoming a mother or committing to a husband. First of all, it is perfectly okay if you don’t want to have a child and don’t want to get married. Check out these statistics from the United States Census Bureau:
“According to the U.S. Census Bureau’s Current Population Survey, in 2014, 47.6 percent of women between age 15 and 44 had never had children, up from 46.5 percent in 2012. This represents the highest percentage of childless women since the bureau started tracking that data in 1976.”
This is important for you to to know. Your feelings of not wanting to be responsible for child are shared with many others. While the reasons may vary for being childfree, the fact remains that many women are choosing that route and it is an option for you as well.
People are also waiting longer than ever before to get married. As an example the average age for a woman to get married in the United states has gone up dramatically since 1980. According to this chart it has risen from about 22 years of age to nearly 28. This is a big jump and is happening because there are more demands, needs, and desires people want to experience before they settle down.
So, on both accounts of not wanting a child or a husband you are in good company. Just because others may have different needs and desires doesn’t make you abnormal. It is okay to be concerned about what you want to take responsibility for in the future. Be gentle with yourself and these choices. There is plenty of room for your thinking about this the way you are.