I admire your desire to understand what it is that you are struggling with and finding ways to cope with a mental health concern that involves impairment in social interactions with others.
Autism has been identified as a spectrum disorder, meaning that the range of symptoms can be at level one, as you are identifying, high functioning autism. Level two autism and level three, which is severe. In level three individuals require substantial support in coping with life because they struggle a great deal with communication and social interaction. Often there is a type of rigidity that prevents adequate coping with changes, and highly repetitive behaviors interfere with normal functioning.
In level two autism individuals need substantial support and clear deficits in social interactions. Typically there is great difficulty coping with changes as well, and there is also an inflexibility and repetitive behaviors.
Finally, in high functioning autism individuals need some support and benefit from learning how to initiate social interactions. The inflexibility with behavior shows up when there is difficulty switching activities and there are problems with organization.
In order for you to move forward, since you identify yourself as being in the 9th grade and 15 years old, I would take the results of the quizzes and set up an appointment with you school guidance counselor, of a trusted teacher. Ask to have a meeting and explain there is something important you need to discuss.
Show the results of your quiz and this response. Explain how it is that your issues align with these results, and be prepared with specific examples from the classroom, and other social encounters. In other words, if your mother won’t argue your case bring it directly to the individuals at school. You mom may have many reasons for her position, as it may require testing, classification, and other interventions that she may be opposed to. What you would be asking for from the counselor are direct ways to help. I imagine that there are socialization groups that might be helpful in giving you strategies for developing more social interaction skills.
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