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Friends Suddenly Hate Me

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So I met my best friends in the world when I started college. I finally found a group of people I clicked with and it was all great last year.
This year however, every single one of them has switched on me.
They ignore me when they see me and walk right past me which is immature and hurtful.
The worst part of it is my best friend also hates me now. I met her to reconcile but it led nowhere, and she didn’t really tell me what I did to cause this change.

I’ve reached out to people but I get no response, and my college course is small, so this number of people disliking me is super hard to deal with, and makes college impossible every day
Being surrounded by people who don’t like you is in no way fun.

I miss my friends, I know I can’t force friendships, but I feel really alone right now.

Friends Suddenly Hate Me

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The best that you can do is try to ignore them and find other friends. You should try engaging in other activities either at college or in the local surrounding community to keep you busy (when you’re not working on classwork). If you try the latter, you’ll likely meet other people with whom you can spend time.

You might also contact your university counseling center. Counseling could help you with the loneliness and perhaps attend group therapy sessions for support.

Perhaps you didn’t know these “friends” as well as you thought you did. That’s fairly common in these types of settings (school, work, etc.). It takes a long time to truly know someone, to understand the nature of their character and their ability to be a quality friend. Sincere friends wouldn’t “suddenly” hate you and stop talking to you.

Not everyone is who they appear to be. In life, it’s good to know who you can trust and who you cannot. It’s an important lesson to learn. Perhaps you trusted these individuals too easily, when you shouldn’t have done so. Counseling would be a good place to analyze why these friendships didn’t last and help you to choose more wisely in the future. Good luck and please take care.

Friends Suddenly Hate Me

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Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2019). Friends Suddenly Hate Me. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 26, 2020, from
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