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When I Get Mad, Could Be Small I Start to Rage Instantly, I Want to Break Things, and Harm Person Who Angered Me

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When i get mad i over react. i dont realize it but everyone else does. i break stuff , i say very threatening things and i want to harm whoever angered me. i cry a lot when im mad and i tend to rage almost instanly. it could be very small but within 3 minutes im raging and throwing glass and swearing. i cant help it im afraid i have anger issues, mainly family really gets me this way. and because of how i live i have to TRY to bottle it up (doesnt help at all) bc when i really get pissed everything bottled comes out. my family always tries to tell me WHY i shouldnt feel a certain way and it makes it worse.

When I Get Mad, Could Be Small I Start to Rage Instantly, I Want to Break Things, and Harm Person Who Angered Me

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Obviously, this is not a healthy or appropriate way to behave. Perhaps you learned this response from your parents or other people in your life. It could be that no one taught you how to react more appropriately. In any event, you realize that a problem exists and you seem to want help. I would recommend contacting an in-person therapist. They would be in the best position to help you.

You can also try reading anger management books. Another idea is to contact your guidance counselor at school and ask them for help. They can provide referrals to professionals who can help.

In the meantime, realize that you are making a choice when you react in anger. You may think you don’t have a choice, but you do. You have a great deal of power in these situations. You can choose to respond differently to aggravating situations. It will be challenging but possible. For instance, you can walk out of the room or take a five-minute timeout, and so forth. The idea is that you are not destined towards a life of uncontrolled anger. You can make a different choice, even during highly emotional experiences.

Hopefully, you are able to acquire the assistance of a mental health professional. It would be the most expeditious way to decrease or eliminate your angry reactions. I hope you are able to receive the help that you desire. Thank you for your question.

Dr. Kristina Randle

When I Get Mad, Could Be Small I Start to Rage Instantly, I Want to Break Things, and Harm Person Who Angered Me

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2019). When I Get Mad, Could Be Small I Start to Rage Instantly, I Want to Break Things, and Harm Person Who Angered Me. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 15, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2019/05/28/when-i-get-mad-could-be-small-i-start-to-rage-instantly-i-want-to-break-things-and-harm-person-who-angered-me/
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