Obviously, this is not a healthy or appropriate way to behave. Perhaps you learned this response from your parents or other people in your life. It could be that no one taught you how to react more appropriately. In any event, you realize that a problem exists and you seem to want help. I would recommend contacting an in-person therapist. They would be in the best position to help you.
You can also try reading anger management books. Another idea is to contact your guidance counselor at school and ask them for help. They can provide referrals to professionals who can help.
In the meantime, realize that you are making a choice when you react in anger. You may think you don’t have a choice, but you do. You have a great deal of power in these situations. You can choose to respond differently to aggravating situations. It will be challenging but possible. For instance, you can walk out of the room or take a five-minute timeout, and so forth. The idea is that you are not destined towards a life of uncontrolled anger. You can make a different choice, even during highly emotional experiences.
Hopefully, you are able to acquire the assistance of a mental health professional. It would be the most expeditious way to decrease or eliminate your angry reactions. I hope you are able to receive the help that you desire. Thank you for your question.
Dr. Kristina Randle