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I’m Too Scared to Express Myself

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I’ve recently received a microphone in the mail that I had boughten about a week ago. Trying it out, I feel so scared and distracted. I feel as if the more I express myself, the more frightened I am to express myself, and I think it’s all because of what I did when I was in middle school. Back in middle school, I used to be a huge cyberbully, and I used a microphone to express such meanness. Now I regret such actions, and that makes me too scared to say anything again.

Not only that, but I live on a busy street in my state, and I get extremely distracted by vehicles, pets, and other people making noises. It’s so annoying, and I can’t get my thoughts straight! How do I solve this?

Context: I am on the autism spectrum. (From the USA)

I’m Too Scared to Express Myself

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I appreciate your courage in speaking up about these issues. Because there are so many symptoms, flashbacks, previous memories of offending others, shame, regret, difficulty in self-expression, sensitivity to stimuli and high levels of distraction, and poor concentration that I would take this opportunity to get a complete battery of tests by a clinical or neuropsychologist. These individuals have many tests at their disposal that can look at the array of concerns, as well as investigate your strengths to help unravel these issues.

You’ve taken the first crucial step in coping with all this. Now it is time to take the next step and have this testing done.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I’m Too Scared to Express Myself

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Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2019). I’m Too Scared to Express Myself. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 6, 2020, from
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