I’m afraid you need to do exactly what you say you can’t, which is to just take it as it is and finish your degree so you can move away from this relationship and into a job where you are appreciated.
Not everyone who takes on mentoring others has the personality or the skills for the job. Sometimes supervising professors are competitive with their own students. Sometimes people who were miserable during their own academic path somehow conclude that they need to make their students just as miserable as they were. Sometimes the personalities of the two just don’t mesh. Whatever the reason, you and your mentor are not a good “fit” for each other and the situation is unlikely to change.
Please remember that you are not pursuing your degree to please your professor. You are pursuing your degree to advance your field and to get yourself a professional position. Hopefully, you have learned from your experience what not to do when mentoring your own students some day.
Your focus needs to be on your work. You are not going to change your mentor. By all means, be grateful for any useful feedback she gives you and appreciative of any opportunities she makes possible. But don’t look for a different kind of relationship. If you do, you will only annoy her and frustrate yourself.
I wish you well.