Your husband gave you good advice. You shouldn’t take your blessings for granted. For instance, if you acquired an illness that seriously affected your health, you’d realize how precious your health is. It shouldn’t take a serious illness to cause one to realize that, but unfortunately, too many people take these blessings for granted. We often don’t realize what we have until it’s gone.
It seems evident that you and your husband did not have discussions about children, at least in-depth discussions, before marriage. That was a mistake. If having children was important to you, you should’ve been sure that the individual you planned to marry, had similar ideas. Since that did not seem to occur, you are now in the position of having to wait.
Perhaps the two of you can have more direct discussions about how long he wants to wait. You might try couples counseling to assist.
Given that you are beginning to feel resentment towards your husband, couples counseling might be necessary to prevent this issue from damaging your marriage. It might help the two of you to communicate more about the things that matter to the both of you. Though it should’ve been done before the marriage, it’s not too late. Thank you for your question. Good luck and please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle