There are many people who don’t have their driver’s licenses and they are not losers. You’re not a loser either. In fact, research has indicated that fewer younger people are getting their licenses in general. A 2016 study by the University of Michigan found that the percentage of 16-year-olds nationwide with a license decreased from 46% in 1983 to 24% in 2014. Roughly half as many 16-year-olds are now getting a license compared to before. You’re not alone.
Maybe you can’t get your license now but that doesn’t mean you won’t in the future. There may come a time when you can acquire your license. Don’t rule it out as a possibility.
For now, you’ll have to accept the fact that you don’t have a license. It’s not what you want and it’s not ideal but it is the reality of the situation. Understandably, it’s upsetting but it’s a waste of time and energy to worry about things you cannot change.
Even if you’re not religious, you might appreciate the wisdom of the serenity prayer widely used by Alcoholics Anonymous: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” It’s a useful mindset for dealing with the reality of the things you cannot change.
I wish I had a more satisfactory answer for you but I know that the best course of action is to learn to accept reality. The sooner you can come to terms with the truth, the less you may suffer emotionally. Thank you for your question. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle