No one who could write this email needs to remain as a failure. Failure isn’t an addiction, poverty isn’t an addiction, and sadness isn’t an addiction. They are conditions we become familiar with. In many instances these patterns of thought start early on and continue more as habits of thought — not mandates from the universe that you will never amount to anything. You have already begun the process of change by asking if change is possible. By writing us here you’ve made it clear that you can do something about what is happening. You’ve reached out to get an expert opinion. This is a great start. The next level is to figure out what you need to make the changes you want. Most likely this is finding some support both in terms of shelter and caring for your emotional well-being. Perhaps there is a church or other religious community that can help with this.
Then ask yourself what’s possible. Push the limits here a bit. Is there some work you could do to in exchange for a place to stay? Don’t look for changes over night — but look for changes! Small progress toward something better helps to change those habits of thought that you’ve inherited from your family. It is time to replace them, little-by-little, with something that says you haven’t gotten everything yet — but you are working towards it.
Finally, have gratitude for the changes that come into your life. This is the key to changing the old habits of thought into new blueprints for a better life.
Wishing you patience and peace,
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral