You believe everyone should show “some remorse” for being rotten. It would be nice if that were true. Our world would be a different place if that were the case but unfortunately, it’s not. Your solution to this, it seems, is to be equally as “rotten” or abusive to the person who you feel wronged you.
The woman who stopped all communication with you had the right to do that. The two of you were dating and she apparently no longer thought you were a match. That is the nature of dating. Undoubtedly, she could have ended it differently. She was wrong to do what she did, however it was equally wrong for you to do what you did. You were both in the wrong.
You could’ve treated the woman on the dating site differently. You could’ve asked her why she ended all contact with you. You could’ve inquired about what didn’t work in the relationship, but instead you chose to say something hurtful. You seem to be operating from the perspective that if someone hurts you then they deserve your revenge and abuse.
It would be wise to consult a therapist (in-person) about this matter. The two of you can examine these situations in more depth and determine what went wrong and how to have a more appropriate reaction.
The more insight you have about this issue, the easier it will be to navigate these types of problems in the future. Finally, I must congratulate you on your willingness to inquire about this issue. It would suggest that you are open to change, should it be necessary. Good luck with your efforts. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle