I’m very glad you found the courage to speak up about your situation. In spite of not want to be in this situation, it sounds like you have an angry alcoholic husband who is verbally and physically abusive. I don’t use these terms lightly. But, if I were taking a test in graduate school and this was the profile I was given, there isn’t a different conclusion to be drawn.
I am glad he’s stopped drinking for the moment. However, the fact that it has become such a problem in the family means that you might do well to get to an Al-Anon meeting in your area. Al-Anon is for family and friends of people with alcohol problems and you will find out very quickly that anger and alcohol often go together. You’ll need support from this group going forward.
I’d also ask around at the Al-Anon meeting about a Woman’s Center in your community that works with women in marriages such as yours. Finding support for you and your children is important. While it is a good thing he has stopped drinking he isn’t seeking help to figure out what’s behind it and how he is hurting others. Often this means that the verbal and physical abuse continues. Having some support to cope with that is essential.
You have done a very good thing by speaking up and writing us here. Take the next steps and get some support through Al-Anon and a woman’s center.
Wishing you patience and peace,
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