From a teen guy in the U.S.: I’ve always been uncomfortable with affection. When I feel like I’ve been wronged I can completely cut someone out of my life and could care less about them. Even some of my close relatives. I realized that I don’t really care at all about things I should care about. I realized today that if my parents were to sit me down and tell me that they didn’t love me at all, I would absolutely not mind at all. I wouldn’t be hurt at all and the first thought that would come to mind would be, if I could still live in my house. I don’t think this is normal or is it?
At 18, you are on the cusp of adulthood. It is normal to be evaluating relationships and your role in them. It is normal to struggle with how to maintain relationships when you find yourself in conflict with others in your life. What isn’t useful is deciding “You can’t fire me, I quit.” Doing that, whenever there is emotional risk, will leave you alone and lonely. One of the biggest challenges in life is learning how to get along with other people, especially when you are in serious disagreement.
Although you say you don’t care about people you should care about, I’m going to venture the guess that you are in fact a very sensitive guy who protects himself by distancing from others. There are better ways to protect yourself from hurt; ways that preserve the relationships when things get tough.
I urge you to see a counselor to help you figure this out. You deserve to have a life that includes friendship and love.
I wish you well. Dr. Marie
Why Don’t I Care about Things as I Should?
Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker
Dr. Marie is licensed as both a psychologist and marriage and family counselor. She specializes in couples and family therapy and parent education. Follow her on Facebook or Twitter.
APA Reference Hartwell-Walker, D. (2019). Why Don’t I Care about Things as I Should?. Psych Central.
Retrieved on June 16, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2019/03/24/why-dont-i-care-about-things-as-i-should/
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