If you live a long, full life, you will mourn the loss of many people that you love. That is the nature of existence. It may be hard to accept or endure, but this is not unique to just you. Everyone experiences the same thing. This includes everyone alive today and everyone who has ever lived. And the key word is “lived.” Even with the pain of loss, all of these people have gone on to live their lives. They have cried and mourned, but they have all gone on. Your pain of loss is great but it will lessen month by month and year by year. Your love for those that you have lost, will not lessen. You will feel the love without the pain. It takes time, but what you are experiencing has been experienced by all those who have come before you.
Here is a famous quote for you. It is by Alfred Lord Tennyson. “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.” An English poet said those words two hundred years ago and they are still repeated today. Yes, you have lost one that you love, but you are better having lost that love than if you had never known that person and thus never developed that love. He is gone but the love lives on. The pain you feel is a small price to pay for the love that you keep with you and will keep with you always.
I wish you the best of luck.
Dr. Kristina Randle