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Husband Constantly Gropes Me While Verbalizing that He Knows I Hate It

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For years my husband has made a habit of randomly groping me, usually grabbing/rubbing my backside, when I am distracted – typically performing other tasks. I’ve asked him to stop repeatedly and explained why I don’t enjoy it. He claims he’s not groping but simply showing affection. In, the past year he has also started saying, ‘I know you hate it, but I like it’ as he gropes me. It’s reached a point, for me, where I have an aversion to his touch period. Am I overreacting by thinking that I feel like I’ve been sexually assaulted?

Husband Constantly Gropes Me While Verbalizing that He Knows I Hate It

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You are not overreacting and it is time to enforce your boundaries with him. I’d encourage the two of you to make an appointment with a couple therapist to have a third party in on this issue. This does several things. First, it elevates and amplifies your voice so your husband gets the message that this isn’t an issue he can dismiss. Secondly, this issue is likely tethered to larger pattern of concerns you can bring into the session.

This will give you an opportunity to amplify your voice and establishing your boundaries and using this as an opportunity to talk about the conflicts in your life. This is a serious issue and stance to take and getting in front of a therapist sooner rather than later is a good idea. The find help tab at the top of the page will help you locate someone in your area.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Husband Constantly Gropes Me While Verbalizing that He Knows I Hate It

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2019). Husband Constantly Gropes Me While Verbalizing that He Knows I Hate It. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 22, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2019/03/04/husband-constantly-gropes-me-while-verbalizing-that-he-knows-i-hate-it/
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