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How Do I Accept that My Boyfriend Rejected Me for Cheating?

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From India: My newly found partner is not okay with my past. I met this guy 1 month ago and I didnt realise when I fell in love with him. I know its funny but in order to open up completely I told him stuff about my past… like how I was in a challenging marriage and how I ended up cheating. I told him whatever happened after separation and how I repent. But he says that hes not okay with it and will never be. I really connect with him and I feel I cant let him go.

I dont know how to knock some sense into him that past is gone and nothing like that will ever happen again. He claims that he ended his previous 3 years old relationship because he couldnt get over something about her ex’s past. I am getting depressed and overly anxious and I dont know what to do. Please help!!!

How Do I Accept that My Boyfriend Rejected Me for Cheating?

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You can’t “knock sense” into him. He is making perfect sense as far as he is concerned and he has been honest with you about it.¬† He knows that he won’t be able to trust you given your past and has told you so.

You have only invested a month in this relationship. It is unlikely to go anywhere. I urge you to take a big step back. You need to find someone who hasn’t been so deeply hurt by cheating that he can’t yet accept a new partner’s past behavior.

I wish you well.

Dr. Marie

How Do I Accept that My Boyfriend Rejected Me for Cheating?

Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker

Dr. Marie is licensed as both a psychologist and marriage and family counselor. She specializes in couples and family therapy and parent education. Follow her on Facebook or Twitter.

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Hartwell-Walker, D. (2019). How Do I Accept that My Boyfriend Rejected Me for Cheating?. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 22, 2019, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2019/02/26/how-do-i-accept-that-my-boyfriend-rejected-me-for-cheating/
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