As you have pointed out, as of yet, he has not actually hurt you. That does not mean that he will not hurt you but he is not displayed that behavior, as of yet. At some point, if things escalate, the police or child services will be able to intervene. Apparently, the information that you provided to the police was insufficient to allow them to take action. You mention your mother and your mother’s family. Have you made them aware of your fears towards your father?
You have survived without your dad actually hurting you for a number of years. Now that you are very aware of the problem and your father’s anger and the things that trigger that anger, you are better equipped to deal with him. Minimize your interactions with your father as much as is possible. When interacting with him do your very best not to engage him or trigger his anger. Don’t allow this to become a battle between his way and your way.
If things worsen, make your mother’s family aware of the danger, make your teachers at school aware of the problem, notify child welfare or ask the police for help in involving child welfare and the courts. Your school is mandated by law to report suspected child abuse (not just proven) to child welfare. Don’t hesitate to talk to your school counselor, teachers or the principal. Please talk to those people and ask for their help. I wish you the best of luck.
Dr. Kristina Randle