So I met a girl in August and we fell in love with each other, she lives in the USA and I live in Sweden. We soon started to Skype and I noticed how I just can’t speak. Even now after 3 months, I’m still very quiet and it makes both her and me very frustrated.
This is some information that might be useful:
– I’m not nervous or uncomfortable when we Skype
– I don’t get anxious when I’m going to speak
– When I’m going to speak it feels like I have something in my stomach that just blocks me from talking
So it’s not nervosity, or me being uncomfortable or anxious. It’s really hard to describe this feeling, it feels like something is holding me back very hard, refusing to let me speak normally. This whole situation makes me very sad and anxious because I don’t feel good by making this girl frustrated, and I really want to talk, but I just can’t figure out what the problem is.I Can’t Speak to People
I Can’t Speak to People
Unless there is something physically wrong with your stomach, then fear/anxiety may be the problem. Perhaps you have unrealistic expectations about how you’re “supposed” to behave and this is holding you back. I would need more information about your personal life to know what might be wrong. A few questions that I would ask would include the following. Does this happen in any other situation? What happens when you find yourself not being able to speak? Do you simply get off the phone?
If it’s only happens in certain situations, then it may be anxiety. Anxiety can be crippling if left uncontrolled.
If it continues to be a problem and you would like help, then consult a therapist. They can collect more information, analyze the problem and provide the necessary treatment. Good luck with your efforts. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle