Consult a therapist. They help people with problems just like the ones you have described. The key is finding a therapist you like. It’s important to find one with whom you “click.” That’s the one who will likely be able to help you the most.
To date, your solution to life problems seems to be avoidance. Avoidance doesn’t work and it can lead to isolation. It significantly limits your prospects and makes life more difficult. Don’t accept the problems in your life. Instead, work to correct them. Most problems are correctable.
When your life isn’t going as planned, distress is the result. I hope you will consider therapy as it could make an immensely positive difference in your life. Too many people choose not to enter therapy and they do so for all the wrong reasons. Everyone struggles at some point in their lives. The difference between those who overcome their struggles and those who do not, may be that some are willing to seek help while others are not. If you know that you have a problem, then do whatever is necessary to make the requisite changes to live a more satisfying and fulfilling life. I hope this helped in some small way. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle