You are in your late 20s. You and your parents understand that you do not need their approval in choosing a partner. It is a testament to your love for them and your maturity that you want to calm their fears and reassure them that your choice is a good one. If you have known your boyfriend since you were very young, chances are your parents knew his family, too. There may be more to their concerns than they are sharing with you. I hope you will all remember that people do grow up and do learn from their own and others’ mistakes.
I understand your parents’ concerns as I am sure you do. Arguing about your difference of opinion isn’t likely to be helpful. It will probably be much more helpful if you and your boyfriend sit down with your parents and have a calm and loving conversation with them. You might consider including the following points:
At your age, it is unlikely that you will meet and love someone who has not been with others before you. Of more importance is what your boyfriend learned from his past and why he now believes he wants a life with you.
The fact that his father was a philanderer is also a reasonable concern. Just as with the first objection, the question to ask is what he learned from his father’s behavior. Some men conclude that “real men” cheat. Others are horrified by their father’s behavior and vow to be different.
The difference in profession is not necessarily a problem. The key is honesty. Have you and your boyfriend talked openly and honestly about the difference in your income potential and how you will handle it?
If you and your boyfriend can’t imagine having such a conversation with your parents, then I think you do have a problem — but not with your parents. These are questions the two of you should be addressing with each other. Once you do, you will be in a much better position to decide if this man is right for you.
I wish you well.