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I’m Not Sure What I’m Feeling

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I know that I have a problem. When I’m alone I feel very alone and like I will never be anything and very depressed but then when I am with others I feel fine. Sometimes when I’m with others I can be really happy but then one thing is said and I feel like I don’t belong there and that nobody wants me there. I’m not sure what is wrong with me but why do I feel this way?

I’m Not Sure What I’m Feeling

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Thanks for your question. I can understand how difficult it can be to experience a wide range of emotions, yet I wouldn’t say that anything you are experiencing is far out of the norm. I believe you are just discovering your emotional life and are learning the ups and downs of it and the patterns. This is very normal, and I wouldn’t put a pathological label on it.

You may want to start keeping a journal as this is an excellent way to begin reflecting on your emotional understanding and self-regulation. Becoming aware of your patterns and process allows you to begin managing your feelings better.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

I’m Not Sure What I’m Feeling

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). I’m Not Sure What I’m Feeling. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 20, 2019, from
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