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I’m 30 and Still Don’t Know What to Do with My Life

I have been feeling lost and confused about life. I’m 30 and still don’t know what I want to do with my life. I did not go to college and I don’t feel It’s for me. I work in retail but I hate it. I thought I had a passion for other jobs that I’ve had in life, but it turned out I don’t. I can’t find anything that makes me happy and that I can stand. I quit jobs constantly because I don’t like them or I just feel like i don’t fit in with the people at the jobs. I’d rather work alone because I can’t stand working with people because a lot of people drain my energy with being negative.

It’s depressing because for years I’ve felt like my life has not moved forward. I feel stuck I know I could be great and successful I just don’t know what I’m good at. I don’t like traditional 9 to 5 jobs but I don’t feel i have talent nor money to do anything else creative.

I’m 30 and Still Don’t Know What to Do with My Life

A.

Thank you for writing. Although I sense your frustration, I do want to remind you that you are 30, not 90. You have time to find a career that will give you satisfaction for many decades. But you won’t find a passion unless you look for it.

I suggest you start with a career counselor. Career counselors are specially trained to help people identify talents and areas of interest that can lead to a good job. A counselor will also support you as you explore different possibilities and will help you take a look at ways you may be sabotaging yourself so you can change your approach to work.

I do suggest that you use your sessions to help you take a close look at why you have so much difficulty being around other people. That probably has a great deal to do with your discomfort in jobs.

Going from job to job hasn’t worked for you. Focus instead on getting to the root of the problem.

I wish you well.
Dr. Marie

I’m 30 and Still Don’t Know What to Do with My Life

Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker

Dr. Marie is licensed as both a psychologist and marriage and family counselor. She specializes in couples and family therapy and parent education. Follow her on Facebook or Twitter.

APA Reference
Hartwell-Walker, D. (2018). I’m 30 and Still Don’t Know What to Do with My Life. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 11, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2018/11/30/im-30-and-still-dont-know-what-to-do-with-my-life/

 

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