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On the Weeks I Go for Therapy I Feel So Fine I’ve Nothing to Say, But on Weeks I Don’t I’m Overwhelmed

I see my school therapist every two weeks, and coincidentally it always happens that the week has gone well and I feel fine. I show up with nothing much to say, nothing much to ‘work towards’, because I genuinely think I’m already okay.

But I’m realizing the weeks without therapy then happen to be the ones when I completely fall apart. I’m so sad I cry for hours not knowing why, and I so want to go to the counselling center at those times because I’m so overwhelmed (with things I can’t even pinpoint) but I don’t know what counts as an emergency so I don’t. It gets to the point where I skip some classes in college because I can’t stop crying, or I just am so tired I don’t want to get out of bed. I have spent entire days just sleeping and it’s really all I want to do. It’s confusing though, because the next week I’m totally okay.

I wasn’t like this before college and I don’t want to spend the remainder of my student life this way, but I really don’t know how to feel better when I don’t know what is overwhelming me/causing me to be sad.

And… I don’t know what to say to the therapist. I think she also thinks I’m okay now (because I am during the weeks I see her), and I think the next session’s our 5th and last one of the semester. (From Singapore)

On the Weeks I Go for Therapy I Feel So Fine I’ve Nothing to Say, But on Weeks I Don’t I’m Overwhelmed

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It is not uncommon to have this kind of anticipatory effect when getting therapy. Knowing that there is someone who cares and is ready to listen to you can, in and of itself, be a tremendous boost to your well-being. I recommend keeping a diary of your thoughts and feelings as you move through the two-week period. This way you’ll have something to show the counselor. You’ll be able to track your thoughts and see the ebb and flow of your emotions.

I would also highly recommend a support group. Talk to the counselor about weekly groups that you might be able to attend that are a support for students. Even if it is a peer support group I think having something regular would be terrific.

Finally, I also recommend the forums. Reaching out through the Internet it’s a really good way to make connections, learn how other people cope, and get support.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

On the Weeks I Go for Therapy I Feel So Fine I’ve Nothing to Say, But on Weeks I Don’t I’m Overwhelmed

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). On the Weeks I Go for Therapy I Feel So Fine I’ve Nothing to Say, But on Weeks I Don’t I’m Overwhelmed. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 17, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2018/11/28/on-the-weeks-i-go-for-therapy-i-feel-so-fine-ive-nothing-to-say-but-on-weeks-i-dont-im-overwhelmed/

 

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