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Suffering an Unexpected Betrayal

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My daughter and the man that I loved both had a relationship behind my back.

More than two months ago more my daughter and the man with whom I had a relationship (today a friendship) went to live together but now they already separated. At some point we were a couple and he was keeping the relationship with me until I discovered it. The lies they told have affected me psychologically from a betrayal I least expected. (From Argentina)

Suffering an Unexpected Betrayal

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You’ll need some time alone to recover from this and some therapy. I would highly recommend talking to a therapist and finding comfort with people other than your ex-lover or daughter. The work for you now is on healing and self care. This layer of betrayal is significant and recovery will take time. Therapy will help.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

Suffering an Unexpected Betrayal

Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.

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Tomasulo, D. (2018). Suffering an Unexpected Betrayal. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 23, 2019, from
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