You told them the truth. They didn’t want to hear it. They may be in denial. The idea that your mother’s husband, the man she chose to marry, had molested you may be too much for her to handle and thus she’s choosing not to believe it. She may know it’s true, as many partners do, but can’t admit that she made a mistake in her selection of a husband. Unfortunately, there’s likely nothing you can do to change her mind. As difficult as it may be, it might be best to keep your distance from them.
Thankfully, you’re an adult and can live independently. Perhaps eventually, there will be a resolution, but as long as your mother is married to your stepfather, she’ll likely continue to side with him. You’ll have to decide whether or not the two of you can continue to have a relationship despite her not believing you. My hope for you is that you don’t blame yourself. It’s not about you; it’s about the character of those choosing not to believe the truth.
Undoubtedly, this is a difficult problem to endure but endure you must. Counseling will help you to understand the complexities of the family dynamic. Most importantly, it will assist you in moving on with your life. Good luck and please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle