Some emotions I feel very heavily, the strongest probably being I’m very passionate about certain things and very empathetic towards almost everything.. But some I cannot seem to feel at all, such as anger. Things that would anger almost anyone truly do not bother me like other people. And I can only think of a handful of times in my life I was remotely angry. And the rest of my emotions, like sadness, happiness, love, excitement and so on, I cannot seem to understand if I actually feel them. When I feel sad, happy, or excited I always feel like I’m partially feeling it, but not completely. Kind of like sometimes I feel 40% happy or 60% sad, but I can’t seem to fully 100% feel anything. Due to this I keep questioning whether or not I feel anything at all or why I just can’t experience true, full emotions. Sorry if this was a bit hard to follow it’s hard to explain this in writing.
I think you did a fine job of explaining—in fact, I am going to recommend that you keep writing in the form of a journal. Find a journal, digital or handwritten, that will help you keep a daily diary of your feelings. I’d recommend that you begin with some simple distinctions, such as highs or lows of the day with a brief description of the events that have caused them.
After a month or so analyze the journal in a reflective way and see if there is a pattern to your emotions. Do you find yourself having a better time with people or alone? Learning something new or trying something new? This reflective experience can give you some insight into not only what you are feeling, but what may be the causes.
Dan Tomasulo Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP teaches Positive Psychology in the graduate program of Counseling and Clinical Psychology at Columbia University, Teachers College and works with Martin Seligman, the Father of Positive Psychology in the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) program at the University of Pennsylvania. He is Director of the New York Certification in Positive Psychology for the Open Center in New York City and on faculty at New Jersey City University. Sharecare has honored him as one of the top 10 online influencers on the topic of depression. For more information go to: http://www.dare2behappy.com/. He also writes for Psych Central's Ask the Therapist column and the Proof Positive blog.
APA Reference Tomasulo, D. (2018). I Feel Like I Can’t Fully Feel My Emotions. Psych Central.
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