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Humiliating Attraction to Preteen Girls

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I have started to get incredibly aroused by girls that are aged around 9-13yo. I like to go to different swimming pools and cannot stop myself becoming fully erect under my speedos when i see their young, near naked bodies. My fear is that i am a paedophile, being unable to resist rubbing myself against them at every opportunity, especially turned on when i get to rub against their faces, trying desperately to push up against their pretty little mouths. How can i stop doing this before they realise what i am doing?

Humiliating Attraction to Preteen Girls

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The most concerning aspect of your letter is your admission that you are “unable to resist rubbing myself against them at every possibility…” That suggests that you are unwilling or unable to stop yourself from engaging in this behavior.

What you are doing is illegal. You could go to prison.

You asked “how can I stop doing this before they realize what I am doing?” The answer is to avoid all situations in which you could act out inappropriately. That means never going to swimming pools since you know they are a problem for you.

You know it is a problem yet you go anyway. Because of this, it is imperative that you seek help. That is the responsible course of action. Get help now or risk being arrested for a sex crime, labeled a sex offender and perhaps spending the rest of your life in prison.

Your behavior may be consistent with frotteuristic disorder which involves recurrent, intense arousing fantasies, urges or behaviors, that involve touching or rubbing against a nonconsenting person. Consult a mental health professional. They will know how to help you. Please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

Humiliating Attraction to Preteen Girls

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Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and Assistant Professor of Social Work and Forensics with extensive experience in the field of mental health. She works in private practice with adults, adolescents and families. Kristina has worked in a large array of settings including community mental health, college counseling and university research centers.

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Randle, K. (2018). Humiliating Attraction to Preteen Girls. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 28, 2020, from
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